| | Re: roomates that are completely comfortable with my gayness ... what do I do
It's so totally not you!! I have a really hard time initiating hugs, touch, or even compliments to women I'm not out to, or women I know are straight. I don't want them to think I'm perving or inappropriate. It has taken me a while to get to the point where if a super-straight friend tells me I'm hot (as straight girls do-so confusing!) to just smile and take it as a compliment-nothing more. Two days ago a friend was over who I highly suspect is bi-romantic at least. She is super-hot and has often complimented me but I just can't bring myself to compliment her back although out of all our friends I'm sure I'm the one most aware of her looks. When she was at my house we were looking at some older photos of her and she obviously dug for a compliment comparing her looks now to then. So i intentionally ans blatantly checked her out and assured her that she looked good. It was like a huge breakthrough for me. Lol But the other day another woman who knows I'm gay took off her shirt in a hotel room when I was there with her and her husband and I got super uncomfortable and simply excused myself from the room with some dumb errand. Maybe that's a good thing through to be able to draw a boundary when we feel we need the space.