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Originally Posted by hawkeye Also, one thing that has become apparent to me recently, it seems that straight guys trust each other a lot. They trust each other not only for advise and help, but they also trust each other that no matter what happens or gets done, they dont have to worry about a guy liking them. So, for example, lets say that my friend is straight, he feels like he can dry hump and walk around naked all he wants, and it wont matter. It wouldnt matter because he trusts that i wont make a move on him. Now, even though I would like to sometimes, I wont. but knowing that someone wont do something just doesnt hold enough trust for some people. So basicly, dont make a move unless you know he wont feel awkward acting natural around you afterwards. |
I don't think that's something that's restricted to straight guys. I mean, I suspect straight women feel the same way around other straight women, and lesbians around gay guys, and vice versa.
It's a dumb way to think, though. You should trust someone won't make a move on you because they're
your friend, not because you think it's impossible because you think you know their sexual orientation. I mean, look at your case. People are so hung up on the sheer TERROR of having someone "make a move on them." The problem isn't whether someone would possibly want to make a move on you, the problem is people's unfounded anxiety with being hit on (well that and the people who don't understand how to politely hit on people).
Stupid North American Puritan-based Victorian sex phobias! I hate how being hit on by a guy is constructed as the most horrible thing that can happen to straight guy. Like it says ANYTHING about the recipient's sexual orientation! *sigh* People are so fucking dumb.