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Originally Posted by Anonymous  ok i just posted a thread ("attached") about how i was feeling about my situation. To sum up, I feel that i cannot always be myself or have enough room to grow.
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My boyfriend is a great guy and i do love him and care about him. The problem is that when i first met him, he had issues with trying to be in a relationship. Those issues affected me deeply and i eventually told him that it wasnt working because of what had happened. He said he would change and for the most part has!
However, I did not move on. I actually became what i didnt like.... i became more selfish and acted out my hurt feelings. I admit i was wrong.
Now i am torn on whether to try and be with him or let go altogether from this relationship!
I know this is tough....trust me i know   |
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Originally Posted by Anonymous OP:
The past issues in the relationship were also partly my fault because i didnt say no and didnt verbalize how i really felt.
My head and heart are equally divided.... |
Hi there! As to whether to let go or try to continue the relationship is a decision only you can make. It seems that the relationship wasn't open enough, in terms of letting each other know when things bothered you. It sounds to me that this something that can be fixed by being more open and honest with - and perhaps even more trusting of - each other.
Before you talk with him, try to give yourself a few days to think about your relationship with him. You love and care about him. Don't rush into a decision that you might regret down the road. Take your time, and think about the whole relationship. Sit down with him as well and talk with him openly about your feelings and where you see the relationship heading. Being open and honest with him is best. Maybe this could be the start of a much closer and better relationship.
Once you have thought about it and talked with him, ask yourself, 'can this relationship work out?'
I hope this helps a bit!