| | Re: Male sexual fluidity
Originally Posted by Lexington
I didn't realize I was gay until I was 20 or so. I'm pretty sure that's because I'm simply not visually attuned. I don't ogle guys (and never ogled girls), or had one catch my eye. If I'm looking at hot guys, it's because I deliberately set out to look at them. If I don't, I never find one catching my eye. So I just assumed I was straight (and perhaps rather undersexed) until I deliberately tried looking at hot guys...and suddenly realized I wasn't undersexed in the slightest.
This is more or less what happened to me. Except that once I started, I became visually attuned.
That said, I do feel that my sexuality has been fluid. I used to find girls quite a bit more attractive than I do now, especially romantically. And even now the right girl can turn my head in ways that make me doubt my sexuality altogether. (I'm looking at you
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