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IanGallagher · 24th Jul 2011, 09:06 PM

Bi guys have an ebb and flow. It's really confusing at first. Some days I'm gay, some days I'm straight. Most of the time lean towards girls, but sometimes only have eyes for guys. It can even change back and forth within a ten minute window oddly enough. Seeing a couple in line and one second wanting the girl's boyfriend and the next wanting his girlfriend. Some bi guys never have relations with guys, so as for "ignoring" it - totally possible. Right now, I've taken the same stance many bi celebrities have without coming out as you probably heard a quote like this before: "I'm not gay, but if something comes my way and happens with a guy I'd be open to it." That's where I found I best fit. Actively pursuing girls while being open to guys since I like them too. Comically the closest I ever got to a gay bar, an LGBT event - my eyes were only on the girls, the gay part shut off. So, I'd say you sound more kinsey 3 or below which could equate bisexuality or heteroflexibility.

As to weird missing things being hectic and scary? Not really. I'm still nostalgic for a couple months where I was self destructive as hell after dealing with grief. It was a roller coaster ride of emotions never knowing what might happen next. I miss that sometimes. No idea why. But I just think people crave that feeling of not being in control.

24th Jul 2011, 09:06 PM	#4
IanGallagher The fluctuator Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Mutant and proud Out Status: All except work and extended family. Location: I fly as much as Superman Age: 25 Posts: 924 Join Date: Apr 2011	Re: back to striaght? Bi guys have an ebb and flow. It's really confusing at first. Some days I'm gay, some days I'm straight. Most of the time lean towards girls, but sometimes only have eyes for guys. It can even change back and forth within a ten minute window oddly enough. Seeing a couple in line and one second wanting the girl's boyfriend and the next wanting his girlfriend. Some bi guys never have relations with guys, so as for "ignoring" it - totally possible. Right now, I've taken the same stance many bi celebrities have without coming out as you probably heard a quote like this before: "I'm not gay, but if something comes my way and happens with a guy I'd be open to it." That's where I found I best fit. Actively pursuing girls while being open to guys since I like them too. Comically the closest I ever got to a gay bar, an LGBT event - my eyes were only on the girls, the gay part shut off. So, I'd say you sound more kinsey 3 or below which could equate bisexuality or heteroflexibility. As to weird missing things being hectic and scary? Not really. I'm still nostalgic for a couple months where I was self destructive as hell after dealing with grief. It was a roller coaster ride of emotions never knowing what might happen next. I miss that sometimes. No idea why. But I just think people crave that feeling of not being in control. Last edited by IanGallagher; 24th Jul 2011 at 09:14 PM..