Yeah, I actually don't think your aunt's views of gay men are any better than her views of lesbians. I mean, she seems to like them as pets or something, and not as people.
In both cases, she is reducing real people to caricatures, it's just that one is a cute caricature, and the other is an ugly one.
Women like her are the reason some gay guys don't like girls coming in their bars.
I'm sorry you have to deal with this.