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Old 11th Dec 2008, 10:36 AM   #1
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ive had friends tell me i like girls becuase i was molested by a drunk guy when i was 10.
i dont think thats the reason at all.
im gay because i think girls are pretty.
what are your thoughts on this? can being molested turn you gay?
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Old 11th Dec 2008, 10:38 AM   #2
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No.

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Old 11th Dec 2008, 10:49 AM   #3
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I think the answer to this is pretty straightforward. As far as I know, there is absolutely no proof to suggest that people who are molested become gay because of it. I think it's just people who hear of a gay person who was molested and try to put the two together.
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Old 11th Dec 2008, 10:56 AM   #4
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i can honestly say i dont have alot of trust for men.
but its not because i was molested, though it may be a small part of it


and i think thats the shortest post ive ever seen posted by lexington :]
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Old 11th Dec 2008, 11:25 AM   #5
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If being molested were the reason people are gay,why aren't more straight people gay?
This is just a way for some people to "reason" why you're gay.It's dumb!
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Old 11th Dec 2008, 11:28 AM   #6
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i agree it is dumb.
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Old 11th Dec 2008, 11:39 AM   #7
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No. I am gay and was never molested. I have yet to see any studies linking homosexuality and molestation.
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Old 11th Dec 2008, 11:43 AM   #8
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neither have i.
some people must be confused
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No. I am gay and was never molested.
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Old 11th Dec 2008, 11:51 AM   #10
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Has anybody actually found any studies on this - either for or against?
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Old 11th Dec 2008, 06:38 PM   #11
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I don't have any studies to back up my response, its just my opinion, but i don't think there is any link between molestation and homosexuality. Yeah it might ruin a bit of the trust you have for which ever gender the person was that molested you. But as for actually making you enjoy being with the same sex...i don't think that's possible.
I think the people who say "I'm gay because I was molested" were already gay, they just didn't i guess know it at the time. So once they move past the molestation and realize they are having feelings towards the same sex, they listen to what their peers or other people have said to them and they think that they are that way because of what happened to them.
I honestly don't think there is any way to 'make' someone gay...or straight for that matter. If you are truly homosexual [or heterosexual] there is nothing someone can do to make you actually want to form a relationship with or have sex with the opposite [or same] gender.
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Old 11th Dec 2008, 06:47 PM   #12
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whoever said that is being ridiculous...it has nothing
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Old 11th Dec 2008, 06:48 PM   #13
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The idea sounds pretty out there to me.
Honestly I don't think one single event could change your sexuality.
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Default Re: does being molested turn you gay?

Some people say that being molested by someone of the opposite sex makes you gay because you mistrust that gender afterwards, some other people say being molested by someone of the same gender makes you gay for some reason. I think both arguments are full of crap.
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Old 11th Dec 2008, 07:12 PM   #15
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so i have had a thought that really doesnt make sense but coming from me that is no surprise...

lets say by some chance being molested turned you gay..what would happen if the gender you now like molested you? could you be straight?

idk im weird.
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well ok ive been raped, and uhm when i realized i was gay i wasnt like ohh heeeyyyyy yeahhhh that guy fu**** me in the ass and i didnt want it so yeah i mean it must turn me gay...and i mean i had plenty of stright relationships which would have been pretty successful, i mean they were pretty, socialable girls...so i highly doubt anything can influence your sexaulity...
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well ok ive been raped, and uhm when i realized i was gay i wasnt like ohh heeeyyyyy yeahhhh that guy fu**** me in the ass and i didnt want it so yeah i mean it must turn me gay
I'm a gay guy, and I have the same feelings about when I was raped by a guy.
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Old 11th Dec 2008, 08:19 PM   #18
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I see how people might make the connection between the two, but i disagree. No connection.
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Old 11th Dec 2008, 10:33 PM   #19
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Default Re: does being molested turn you gay?

Children of abuse who are gay, sometimes wonder about this and it causes them a lot of harm. Think about realising your gay and times the stress you may have by 10 and you probably won't get even close to someone who thinks they are 'this way' because of something a selfish cockhead did to them when they were younger.

This is why you shouldn't say that being gay and being abused are linked, because for children of abuse it fucks up the situation even more. situation = (being abused, not being gay)

And that is why you shouldn't even think about hurting kids like that and if you do you should get help, because it can affect someone's day to day life forever.
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so i have had a thought that really doesnt make sense but coming from me that is no surprise...

lets say by some chance being molested turned you gay..what would happen if the gender you now like molested you? could you be straight?

idk im weird.
haha you're not weird

actually you make a really good point

seeing it in this light makes you notice [if you didn't already notice before] how ridiculous it is to think that your sexuality could be changed by being molested.
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