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Old 20th May 2009, 01:50 PM   #1
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Default Physically, do women have the same sexual "needs" as men?

Being a teenager, apparently it's normal for guys to "relieve themselves" on a regular basis. In fact, for many it seems to be a necessity to do this, so that they don't walk around horny all the time. Everyone I've talked to says that it's absolutely normal (and possibly healthy) to have such strict sexual needs.

Now, I'm wondering. Why is it this way with men, and not with women? Do women, physically and mentally, have the same sexual needs programmed within them as men do? Are women just better at controlling their desires? Or is it a physical difference?

I'm honestly just curious about this. It doesn't stem from anything perverted. I'm just wondering.
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Old 20th May 2009, 02:21 PM   #2
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Its very normal for men to have a higher sex drive than women. I think it has something to do with testosterone or the build up of sperm? (Men are always producing sperm, and they cant hold all there little boys inside forever ya know)

Its a fact that men as a whole think of sex more than women as a whole. (not true base by base, but generally) So i dont think women generally have the same sexual needs as men. They can definitely go longer without "release" if thats what your asking.
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Old 20th May 2009, 02:29 PM   #3
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Default Re: Physically, do women have the same sexual "needs" as men?

Well, thinking in a purely biological sense, women are only fertile for a few days. Our sex drive doesn't need to always be "on". So just from a standpoint of keeping a species going, men kind of need to always be on standby, so to speak.

That said, I think some sexual release is healthy for women, too. And there's still such a taboo on masturbation and sex in general, and so much misinformation concerning girls and virginity (how many times have I seen "if i use a tampon, am i still a virgin?" on some women's health FAQ? Argh), that it's not as prevalent in women as it could be! It's fantastic stress relief though. I know I definitely feel like I need it sometimes, haha!
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i think its an evolutionary thing. From an evolutionary point of view man's job is to continue the species. Since the man doesn't bare the child its evolutionarily advatageous for a man to have a higher sex drive so that he can produce as many offspring as possible, before we came up with the idea of manogamy lol
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I don't presume to speak for the women on EC- they're capable of speaking for themselves.

What we do know from studies that all humans have a natural drive and interest in sex. Teenage guys are very driven by hormones and compulsion during puberty. Teenage girls tend to be more connected with their emotions when it comes to sex. That changes as both get older and sex becomes more connected with relationships and affection in both males and females.
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Default Re: Physically, do women have the same sexual "needs" as men?

Well, speaking for myself, I certainly have sexual needs programmed into me. I don't know about women in general, but I have the need for sexual release as well. I don't know if I would descirbe it as a lack of control. I just know that it feels good, and I don't believe it's wrong.

However, when guys get turned on, it's much more noticeable, and may be part of the reason they do something about it.
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Speaking for myself, I pretty much fit your description of a teenage boy. I think about sex a lot (too much tbh, I have a bit of a one track mind sometimes) and if I don't, as you so delicately put it, relieve myself, for a day or two, it's a pain. Not literally, but figuratively speaking.

I can't speak for any other women, but I think societal attitudes have a lot to do with whether men or women think they do/should have a high sex drive or do/should masturbate a lot. Also, women from a young age are often not encouraged to be in touch with thier bodies, often not even knowing what they really look like. They don't know what they're supposed to enjoy, they think they shouldn't, that it's icky, and any porn they might come across looks grosser than gross. Among boys it's also a competition, a display, to be obsessed with sex, whereas between most girls it's very tabboo to even talk about it much. Also, women don't get erections, so it's both harder to tell you're aroused and easier to ignore. So all of those might be societal reasons why women tend to be less sex-obsessed than men.
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Old 21st May 2009, 05:10 PM   #8
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Maybe not quite of the same caliber, but it all depends on the woman.

My girlfriend, for is example, has reeeeally high sex drive....Mine, not so much, but it's still up there.
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Speaking for myself, I pretty much fit your description of a teenage boy. I think about sex a lot (too much tbh, I have a bit of a one track mind sometimes) and if I don't, as you so delicately put it, relieve myself, for a day or two, it's a pain. Not literally, but figuratively speaking.

I can't speak for any other women, but I think societal attitudes have a lot to do with whether men or women think they do/should have a high sex drive or do/should masturbate a lot. Also, women from a young age are often not encouraged to be in touch with thier bodies, often not even knowing what they really look like. They don't know what they're supposed to enjoy, they think they shouldn't, that it's icky, and any porn they might come across looks grosser than gross. Among boys it's also a competition, a display, to be obsessed with sex, whereas between most girls it's very tabboo to even talk about it much. Also, women don't get erections, so it's both harder to tell you're aroused and easier to ignore. So all of those might be societal reasons why women tend to be less sex-obsessed than men.
I agree totally with Helena--I always find it SO disturbing when people (here and elsewhere) fall back really quickly to "evolutionary" arguments. If you want to argue from that perspective, then same-gender sexual intercourse should not be happening because we're not "built" for that.

I'm not saying women and men biologically identical. But to distill sex drive to the amount of testosterone people have/produce, or the fact that men are constantly producing sperm whereas women only ovulate once a month is pretty, uh, ridiculous if you ask me. I am super-comfortable attributing 80 to 90% of the "difference" between men and women's sex drives in Western/Northern society is socially constructed--the result, as Helena says above, of women basically being taught from Day One to be chaste and virginal and of men being taught to be sexually boisterious and competitive. There's a reason why nearly all the sexually derogatory terms (slut, whore, prostitute, etc.) are gender-specific, and it's not because of biological, let me assure you.
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