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Old 8th Jul 2009, 08:43 PM   #1
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ok so ive been talking to this girl for a while now and everytime we talk i get deeper feeling for her. the thing is, we both live in different places and she never said she did not like all she says is that we live so far from each other. i really like her and i want to be with her but she shuts down everytime we talk. am i wasting my time on her or should i keep fighting for her. any advice would be nice. Thanks
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Old 8th Jul 2009, 09:48 PM   #2
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Lol, I feel like you're in a way more intense version of my current situation.
Honestly if she's not reciprocating, cut it off before you get in any deeper than you already have, it'll just hurt more later. And find out where she's at on the whole thing if you don't already know.~
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Old 8th Jul 2009, 10:06 PM   #3
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IF you've given her several openings - "I really enjoy my time with you", "I really wish we could spend more time together" - but not gotten anything favorable, I'd say she doesn't like you the same way. In which case, you may have to simply resign yourself to being friends. Sorry.

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Old 9th Jul 2009, 03:24 PM   #4
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well you are right my heart got broken i got myself in too deep and she found someone else so i guess im just without
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It happens. Take time to feel lousy, cry, punch the pillows, kick the doorframe, and listen to really bad music.

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It happens. Take time to feel lousy, cry, punch the pillows, kick the doorframe, and listen to really bad music.

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Depends... for us happy people it's GREAT music
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All music is great it is more a matter of it's appropriatness,
Try Berlin (Lou Reed) or The ghost of Tom Joad (Bruce Springsteen) or Nabraska (Bruce Springsteen) if you want really deppressing music.

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best it never started then it end once it has got you deep in icy water.
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Old 14th Jul 2009, 07:25 PM   #8
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loud music has helped a lot and now im on the road to being happy again i know we were not ment to be together and im ok with if cuz i think i found someone that share in the same feeling as me
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i know we were not ment to be together and im ok with if cuz i think i found someone that share in the same feeling as me
That was fast!

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Old 14th Jul 2009, 10:07 PM   #11
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well i hope it the one she and i talk and we live near each other but i could be wrong i just could be wishing for something i just cant have but will see
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Try not to think of these girls as "the one". They're all simply potentials. Potential acquaintances, potential friends, potential girlfriends. But you don't know until you get to know more about them. It might end up that you'd make much better friends than girlfriends. If so, that's great - we can all use more friends - and it doesn't mean time spent with her is wasted.

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distance can be worked aslong as there is commitment and love

but if she doesent feel anything for you then i say move on dont get in to deep save yourself the hurt.

but these things take time dont jump to the conclusion that she doesent care love over a distance is hard and you havent met we i dont take you have.... so things will need to move at a slower pace you have to get to know each other over time see pics , skype eachother, these things can take ages tehn save up and when your eally close go see her and see how things feel between the two of you
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