Porn

[Anonymous]

My views on the whole porn thing is that it's good in moderation, but be careful not to let it take over your social life in any way. I found myself wanting to watch it more and more and had to stop for a while....like three weeks ish. i kinda go in crazes like that. i like both some of the extreme, but also the gentle stuff

[Zontar]

Porn's all I'll ever get.

[Anonymous]

I know everyone says girls don't like porn and that lesbians don't like porn...but I LOVE porn. And I am both of those things

[thedreamwatch]

Originally Posted by Anonymous

I know everyone says girls don't like porn and that lesbians don't like porn...but I LOVE porn. And I am both of those things

woops! that was me.

[IsItSo]

It's pretty boring. But that's just me.

Everything in moderation is ok I suppose. The only porn I avoid is anything that even looks like it could be underage (I really don't trust all the sites, even if they say they are over 18) and sites that show barebacking. I don't want to be counted as helping or supporting sites that look like they promote those two things.

Lately, I have to say that I use porn to kind of get me "primed" for sex with my boyfriend. With how busy I have been lately, I think my sex drive has kind of suffered, so sometimes I need something to help me get in the mood.

[Pseudojim]

Originally Posted by Kevin42

Everything in moderation is ok I suppose. The only porn I avoid is anything that even looks like it could be underage (I really don't trust all the sites, even if they say they are over 18) and sites that show barebacking. I don't want to be counted as helping or supporting sites that look like they promote those two things.

Lately, I have to say that I use porn to kind of get me "primed" for sex with my boyfriend. With how busy I have been lately, I think my sex drive has kind of suffered, so sometimes I need something to help me get in the mood.

I've done this too. It's actually helped my performance at times, when i wasn't feeling particularly frisky.

could it be harmful? is it unethical?

As for the former, i dunno... for the latter, nah probably not.

[Mogget]

I like certain kinds of porn. But I find a lot of it unbelievable. I have to really believe the people are into what they're doing for it to work for me. I don't pay for anything I watch, but I still prefer to avoid barebacking stuff, feels wrong. I also worry that some of the performers may be being exploited, but I think that's a bigger concern with female performers than male, anyone here know anything about that?

[Chip]

From what I know, the gay porn industry is a lot smaller than the straight porn industry, so there's a lot of interaction between company owners, and within the industry it's fairly well known who are the "good eggs" and the "bad eggs" as far as shady producers and such.

Exploitation definitely happens; there are some shady studios or producers that rip models off or otherwise take advantage of them, and sadly, many studios and producers, particularly in the twink sector, expect models to have sex with the owners or photographers or whatever... and while I doubt it's forced, the models are made to believe that they need to do that in order to get the next job, so the exploitation is definitely there. And when a studio is talking a model into doing work because s/he is broke, out of work, high on drugs and looking for a fix... there's no question that's exploitative.

There are a number of gay studios, though, that treat their models really well, pay them fairly, never take advantage of them, and develop long-lasting relationships with them. And there are quite a few gay porn models that love what they do and are proud of their work. So, much like any other industry, there are reputable players and awful ones. The trick is figuring out which are which, and that isn't easy. And lastly, as Liam says, an overwhelming number of studios are putting pressure on their models to shoot bareback content, and that is not only unsafe for the model (even if the models are tested the day of the shoot) but it sends the totally wrong message to the public viewing the content.

I also have reason to believe that a disproportionate number of porn models (male and female) have emotional or sexual abuse issues. For some, porn might help them to sort of take control of their sexual selves, and in those cases, approached the right way, it can be healing. But for many of the others who are abuse survivors, the porn may end up further harming them, because it tends to further one's view of oneself as an object (particularly a sexual object) which doesn't support a healthy outlook on oneself or on sex or relationships.

I think porn will be around forever, but it does seem that as it is becoming more mainstream, the safety and quality and attitudes are improving, and models are being treated better than they were 10 years ago. So there's definitely improvement, but I still think there's a very long way to go.

[Anonymous]

well i like porn but it really doesnt do much for me

I have gotten into the hentai side just because there are some interesting situations and things just not possible in real life but hey its kinda not working for me the only porn I watch now is from my boyfriend and me

[Lexington]

Porn is like (non-pornographic) books, movies, and what not. It's a fun escape from time to time, but it shouldn't become a substitute for real life.

Lex

[Toneth]

so is it weird that I just don't find masturbation with porn as satisfying? I find my own imagination much more stimulating. I'm not into anything kinky, but I just prefer a less rough and tumble image I guess, err, well, at first HAHA