Porn

[Anonymous]

Just wondering what your thoughts are on porn. Is it bad or a sign of insecurity to look at porn?

[x2x2x2x2y2]

I think porn is AWESOME.

Unless you get addicted to it. That's not good.

[Anonymous]

I love porn xD maybe a little bit to much :x i think it can be perfectly healthy to look at and all that when done in moderation (i don't always keep the moderation xD). But it really depends on the person watching it to develop a sense of insecurity about how they look/perform. Although i think the look thing is just as present in a lot of other forms of media.

[Swamp56]

There's nothing wrong with looking at porn as long as it doesn't interfere with your life.

[KaraBulut]

There's a basic principle of medicine that says that too much of a good thing can become a bad thing.

That is also true of porn.

If the alternative is to go out and have sex with a stranger, then porn is a healthier alternative.

If the alternative is to have a relationship with a healthy sex life, then a relationship is probably the healthier option.

[Anonymous]

Too much porn is bad. That's basically when it interferes with your life. If you would rather watch porn than hang out with friends, that's too much.

As a male however, porn gives me something to do when I'm bored. Let's be honest, masturbation is basically a fun way to pass the time.

[Chip]

I think an overwhelming majority of people look at porn. It can be fun and if handled reasonably, is fine.

The caveat is it's easy to get an unrealistic idea of what people look like, how big their penises are, and lots of other unrealistic things. In real life, (most) people don't have sex at the drop of a hat, stay rock hard for hours on end, always look perfect, go seamlessly without talking from one position to another, or any of those things... they are all fantasies created by the porn companies. Much of newer porn also glamorizes barebacking and other unsafe sexual practices, and in that way, can send an unconscious message that unsafe sexual practices are ok, or "hot" or otherwise the "in" thing to do, and that's a really, REALLY bad message to convey.

Another thing I think is problematic is when you start to rely on porn for stimulation and fantasy when you masturbate. The ability to fantasize and imagine amazing sexual experiences without actually watching them on a computer or TV contributes to the quality of the sexual experience one has; if you find yourself only being able to be stimulated looking at porn, you're losing out on the ability to use your own imagination and have a wonderful experience that you create in your own mind.

Lastly, porn if watched too much can sort of desensitize you, and some people find themselves, when that happens, going for more extreme porn. I believe that's not healthy, and if you find yourself starting to get desensitized, that's an indication it's time to take a break and spend some time developing your own fantasies in your mind's eye.

I do believe that, just like video games, as long as you use porn occasionally and make it a part of, but not the whole of, your sexual experience, it can be a perfectly healthy and enjoyable part of your sexual experience.

[kettleoffish]

It's a handy, guilt-free aid to jerking off. That's all I see it as.

It's like beating it to the hot guy at school, without the awkwardness of talking to him the next day.

I like porn

But obviously, too much is bad, especially if it gets to the point where it interferes with other things in your life.

[No One]

I agree with the others, too much porn is bad, but in moderation it can be fun.

[Zach1992]

I absolutely love porn.

[dromadus]

Yeah, there is one thing really good we can always say about making love with porn:

at least you don't have to look your best

[wizdrorcal]

Completely agree with everyone here. Moderation is key. So long as you don't become dependent on it....its a great way to pass the time. And like was mentioned, continue to be aware it is not real life....and don't except the same in your bedroom. Everyone is different.

[Steve]

the biggest problem with porn is that if you watch to much , then porn itself becomes boring and you will find yourself looking to having sex with strangers like said by karabulet.

so really try not to watch to much because first it also gives you a wrong impression on how sex should be.

Steve

[san tighty]

Maybe I just don't get it because I've never watched porn, but I don't agree with it.
The whole thing just rubs me the wrong way. How the actors and actresses are exploiting themselves, how it makes an intimate thing seem so dirty... I think sex should be a private and romantic thing. I don't think it should be a form of "entertainment" or a way to pass the time. It's something that should be special and powerful, not a daily routine or a job or a form of media...

[Anonymous]

Originally Posted by san tighty

Maybe I just don't get it because I've never watched porn, but I don't agree with it.
The whole thing just rubs me the wrong way. How the actors and actresses are exploiting themselves, how it makes an intimate thing seem so dirty... I think sex should be a private and romantic thing. I don't think it should be a form of "entertainment" or a way to pass the time. It's something that should be special and powerful, not a daily routine or a job or a form of media...

it is their choice to exploit themselves. and sex means different things to different people. sex for me is love, expression, funny, exciting, warm. there is no reason why sex shouldn't be a form of media; sex IS expression, just like literature or music IN A WAY. And why shouldn't it be a daily routine...i dont know why sex on a daily basis offends you. but im really just talking out of my ass over here dont take anything im saying too seriously, well at least not as seriously as you take sex. sorry im just teasin' ya!

[ohkbye]

Originally Posted by Anonymous

it is their choice to exploit themselves. and sex means different things to different people. sex for me is love, expression, funny, exciting, warm. there is no reason why sex shouldn't be a form of media; sex IS expression, just like literature or music IN A WAY. And why shouldn't it be a daily routine...i dont know why sex on a daily basis offends you. but im really just talking out of my ass over here dont take anything im saying too seriously, well at least not as seriously as you take sex. sorry im just teasin' ya!

i didnt mean to post that anonymously. hi, i'm jacob

[Sylver]

Originally Posted by SexualTeen

I absolutely love porn.

I've never seen the two sides of the argument presented so convincingly!

[Anonymous]

Porn is awesome possum. But Chip hit it on the head. Some people will become addicted/reliant on it a lot easier than others. Giving a set amount that's safe to watch I feel is pointless. For instance, I have an extremely addictive personality. I'll eat chocolate till I'm physically ill if I'm not careful (I take some blame too! ). Same with porn; in my first year of college, I watched far more than I'd like to admit to. Just because its there, doesn't mean you need to watch it! It never interfered with my socializing, but I did become somewhat reliant on it. But others, they can watch as much as they want and still get off on their own too.

Luckily, I've pretty well gotten over that. So just be careful! If you catch yourself thinking you watch too much, you lose nothing by watching less! You don't need to keep a tab, or a little black book of times and dates. When you start to need the porn to get off, well, then its time to rethink your situation. And, for me at least, I find personal fantasies so much more exciting than any porn!

[Chip]

Originally Posted by san tighty

Maybe I just don't get it because I've never watched porn, but I don't agree with it.
The whole thing just rubs me the wrong way. How the actors and actresses are exploiting themselves, how it makes an intimate thing seem so dirty... I think sex should be a private and romantic thing. I don't think it should be a form of "entertainment" or a way to pass the time. It's something that should be special and powerful, not a daily routine or a job or a form of media...

I think it all depends on your view of sexuality, which, in turn, has a lot to do with the environment in which you're raised. There's a whole school of thought that sex is beautiful and wonderful and nothing to be ashamed of, and therefore nothing wrong with watching -- or, for that matter performing in -- porn.

I know people who have been porn performers, and some of them are just incredibly open and comfortable people who love what they do and enjoy sharing themselves knowing that it will bring other people pleasure. I know others who do it for the attention they get, and still others who have used their work in porn to become more comfortable with themselves.

All of that said, I think there are lots of reasons *not* to do porn as well, and I think anyone who considers it should give it really serious thought, both in terms of the potential future effect on career, as well as the emotional and psychological aspects (which can be either positive or negative, depending on the person and circumstances.)

I do think that many of the people who perform in porn do so because they genuinely enjoy it and are just very open people. But I also think that it's not for everyone, and as san tighty points out, there are people who aren't comfortable watching it either. So it all comes down to personal choice.

[Holmes]

I don't think it's a sign of insecurity to watch porn, but I do find it nice to think sometimes, "Oh, it's been a few days since I watched any". I sometimes leave my laptop in my locker as it's heavy to carry home, and would sometimes be just too tired to watch some porn before sleeping. The porn I like tends not to be at all extreme, I like it when I could believe the two are actually a couple, and it seems intimate, rather than excessive or all smiling for the camera.

During times when I've been with someone, even in the smallest way, I didn't watch porn.

I do think watching too much, such that it interferes with doing more valuable things, is a bad thing.