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Old 12th Dec 2007, 01:52 PM   #1
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Do you actually think underage sex with two minors, who arent in a relationship is bad?
i have gone threw all the gay bases with the same guy, but we arent anywhere near bf and bf, and never will be.
whatd u think?
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Old 12th Dec 2007, 02:00 PM   #2
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Depends what age, as long as its not borderline kiddy porn then i don't think theres a problem. like 13+?
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Old 12th Dec 2007, 02:10 PM   #3
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we started around 13 maybe 14, til now which is 16.
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Old 12th Dec 2007, 02:33 PM   #4
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I don't find that odd..

Experimentation is perfectly okay between to consenting youth of the same age.

If one is significantly older than the other i think the "consent" part gets a bit blurry, then it becomes an issue of 'is the older one taking advantage of the younger one' (intentionally or subconsciously).

The whole "age" thing is just to protect children from pedophiles. I don't frown on underage sex at all, my only problem with say a 10 year old and a 13 year old going at it is that the 13 year old could be taking advantage of the 10 year old (intentionally or subconsciously) because of the obvious complications with the age gap.
Or even an 18 year old and a 14 year old, the same applies.
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my bestie is 15 and her bf is 19. i say wrong and illegal. i think that is it wrong. sex is meant for adults in a loving relationship. adults who are actually adults (maturely) like 21+. i mean if you can't vote (US), just being able to drive and can't drink, then you really should not have sex.
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Old 12th Dec 2007, 02:55 PM   #6
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Ii think it would be ok if you too love each other. But also it's hard i myself sometimes just wish to do someone and to get done by someone. But as friends i could see that as ok.. But if you just talk to have sex that isnt really cool/
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Well it is if you think it is right
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I agree with Proud1p4. He has said everything I would have said.
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my bestie is 15 and her bf is 19. i say wrong and illegal. i think that is it wrong. sex is meant for adults in a loving relationship. adults who are actually adults (maturely) like 21+. i mean if you can't vote (US), just being able to drive and can't drink, then you really should not have sex.
My best friend (guy - 19) has a girlfriend that is 15, so its the opposite way around and I'm fine with it and most people are too. When they first started going out they got heaps of shit about it, which I thought was stupid. If they love eachother then age doesn't matter, as long as its LOVE.
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Old 12th Dec 2007, 11:14 PM   #11
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I think personally I'm fine with it if the people involved are like... 13+. The idea of 12 and under people having sex is a little weird to me, just because the whole puberty thing is unlikely to have happened at that point.

Hopefully I don't need to disclaim that I don't mean to say that I think everyone should start having sex once they hit age 13... but I will anyway because people always get so touchy about "children" and sex.

As for age gaps, I don't know... it gets so incredibly difficult to judge in the grey areas. I knew a 15yo who was sleeping with a 25yo... I don't really know if that was hugely imbalanced. On the surface yeah, it seems like a bad idea but I really think you have to judge each situation like that on its own. Like I can see 14 and 18 being a really bad situation in some cases and a relatively fine one in others.

I think probably the most telling thing with the large age gaps when the younger person is still in their teens is why the older person is interested in being involved with someone that young. In my personal opinion once you're around 20 have sex with whoever you want no matter how much older than you they are because the younger person can then generally be considered an adult but if a 35yo were involved with an 18 or 16yo, I would have to go "Uhm... why? What's going on there?"

But in most jurisdictions a 35yo would be able to legally sleep with an 18yo... so what's the difference between a 17yo and an 18yo? Or a 16yo and an 18yo? I think you could make arguments on both sides, that someone 18 is much more mature than someone 16, but that's just a generic argument because I'm sure there are plenty of 16yos who are a lot more mature than some 18yos.

I know of someone's parents where his mother was 16 and his father was 21 when they started dating. I'm not sure where they were at the time so I'm not sure if that was legal but they eventually got married and were together many years, so was that wrong at the beginning? I mean obviously it wouldn't have seemed very problematic when his mother was 21 and his father was 27.

So I think broad guidelines are important but that it's not very useful to jump the gun based on them when presented with a specific relationship. Of course, the law is generally a pretty blunt instrument, and most people don't have much inclination towards developing an understanding of the subtleties of a situation, so things can get pretty freaky pretty fast.
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I'm with Proud1p4 and Paul on this one. As long as both partners are the same age (the older you get the less the age difference matters) and both willing I can't see what harm experimenting can do.
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As long as they're a similar age, have similar maturity, and don't regret it afterwards, I could care less.
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As long as they're a similar age, have similar maturity, and don't regret it afterwards, I could care less.
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