i feel nothing

[Anonymous]

I don't know what's going on and I need advice. Lately I've been so comfortable, accepting that I'm gay and telling some friends. Granted there are days where I wish I wasn't, I know it'll get better. But I was just looking at some pictures of the hottest guys ever just now, and I barely got hard. AND I haven't even been masturbating alot, like last night and then every couple days...So what's wrong with me? This is really making me unsure of my sexuality when I know I'll never get hard looking at girls. Anyone else go through this? Is this normal to not get aroused at every sexy picture I see, could I just not be in the mood? Sorry if this is a stupid question but its just really bothering me

[Sunsetting]

being attracted to someone isn't about getting hard whether it's a guy or a girl, it's about a person who you come to love and who loves you. sure, attraction can be from the outside in, but bro, things that last are from the inside out. so, don't sweat it. if you're gay, ok, if you're not, ok. be patient. some of us want to know now, have the label and be done with the question. but life doesn't require that. it just feels like sexuality is the biggest part of you right now because it's so intense. but your feelings change with the wind and can lead you astray. but you, you are far more than your sexuality bro, far more.

on your side ~ me

[Anonymous]

It has happened to me several times, and I think its normal. It happens to me when I'm under stress or my head is somewhere else. In this moments nothing turns me on. So might be that?

[donnie5]

Originally Posted by Anonymous

It has happened to me several times, and I think its normal. It happens to me when I'm under stress or my head is somewhere else. In this moments nothing turns me on. So might be that?

I would say going through a spell of "not being turned on at all" is completely normal. could be stress, could be in your head, or it could be nothing at all. The one thing i can tell you is to relax and stop worrying about it that will stress you out more. eventual you will get these feelings back...

[Anonymous]

OP here, thanks for all the advice guys, means alot

Yeah, I definitely think your right about the stress thing. Its just that while I was checking out all of these pics, I was trying to work up the courage to talk to this openly gay guy from my school, and I kept feeling like I couldnt bring myself to talk to him until I felt completely...validated i guess, and it just led to alot of overanalyzing...some of which still hasn't passed =/ like i know im gay, ive never had any interest in girls except for the feelings i thought i had to have, but when it comes to talking to openly gay guys, i never feel sure of myself enough