it doesnt get better

[Anonymous]

I recently came out and people avoid me and dont wann be around me. People ive been around my whole life im 21 and ive been thinking about ending things for a long time and i think now is the time.

Spareme your religious bullshit rants i dont believe in them i just want to be gone so ppl can understand how bad theyve made me feel

[Sunsetting]

I have been here/there a million times, so, for what it's worth, you're not alone at all in this. I have to get a counselor so I can just start feeling right about me and my situation too. Do you have a counselor to speak with? I wish I could shake you and just stand by you in person, but please consider this the same man.
Peace, me

[sometimesbetter]

First of all, I want to tell you that you've shown great courage just by telling us how you feel. Secondly, it may seem like it doesn't get better now, but it does––it really does. There's a whole world out there for you, just waiting to be explored; just waiting to be graced by your presence. You mustn't give up now. There's a multitude of people that are open and warm enough to welcome you in their lives; it just takes a bit of time. Please, don't give up now. Each person is important, no matter how unimportant they must feel at the moment. Just by sharing what you feel, you've already connected with many people that feel the same way, that are ready to see the world from another perspective.

[Mirko]

Hi there!

Sometimes, it can be hard for some friends (even long time friends) and family members to accept it and be comfortable with your coming out. But don't let that stop of you of living your life.

You have done a really important thing. You have come out! And from the sounds of it, it must have been a difficult decision. You should be proud of what you have accomplished. Pad yourself on the shoulder, and tell yourself, "I want to live my life, the way it is meant to be."

Ending things, isn't the answer. Harming yourself, in any way, shape or form, is not the answer. People, your friends and family, will also understand how they made you feel, when they see you with others, having fun, and living your life to the fullest that you can. Being yourself, is often times the best answer. By being yourself, you are telling them, "I haven't changed. I am still the same person, with the same qualities and things that you like about me."

Don't give up! Be yourself. Try to create new friendships and try to get to know new people. Build your support network. That will help you to move forward.

[Jonathan]

I wont try to take the whole "it get's better" approach since it's something you apparently don't believe in.

You say that you want to end it so that people can see how bad they've made you feel. So in a way, this would be your way of striking back at them, right? It's obvious you have nothing but negative feelings for these people and want to make them feel bad by ending it all. I would say that instead of ending your life to make a point, you could live your life to make one. Instead of ending it in an attempt to make them feel bad, you could live a happy life without these people, just to spite them and prove that they were wrong about you and that you didn't need them after all. Is this the healthiest of methods? Probably not. However, it's turning your anger (and the resulting spite) in a better direction.

[Hana Solo]

Originally Posted by Jonathan

I wont try to take the whole "it get's better" approach since it's something you apparently don't believe in.

You say that you want to end it so that people can see how bad they've made you feel. So in a way, this would be your way of striking back at them, right? It's obvious you have nothing but negative feelings for these people and want to make them feel bad by ending it all. I would say that instead of ending your life to make a point, you could live your life to make one. Instead of ending it in an attempt to make them feel bad, you could live a happy life without these people, just to spite them and prove that they were wrong about you and that you didn't need them after all. Is this the healthiest of methods? Probably not. However, it's turning your anger (and the resulting spite) in a better direction.

Amen to that! Thats what I told my suicidal friend. Not sure if she listened to me, but she's still around