Boyfriends Ex Boyfriends

[Anonymous]

Is it really weird that I want to see what all the guys my boyfriend has dated look like? Not to compair myself to them, I'm just curious. I want to see them, but I feel weird asking for their names. I'm legitimately in love with my boyfriend and I'm honestly just curious about his life.

[Mirko]

Hi there! I'm wondering if there is a part of you that is a bit insecure about your relationship with your boyfriend. I would tend to think that it shouldn't matter what your boyfriend's ex-boyfriends looked like, or what they were like. Even though you have stated that you don't want to compare yourself, I suspect that perhaps a small part of you is wondering, "if he broke up with others, will he break up with me at some point? Will this relationship last? How do I stack up against them?"

You love your boyfriend, and I assume he loves you. That is all that matters. Asking about his past boyfriends, might actually bring back some memories or times that he is not comfortable sharing at this point, or would rather not talk about. If your boyfriend wants to share his 'past with his other boyfriends', he will do so at some point.

As your relationship grows, the more he will reveal about himself.

[alex7song]

I agree with Mirko. I think as the relationship progresses he will naturally reveal more of his past to you.

[Anonymous]

If you really wanted to try asking without being explicit, then you can tell him about YOUR ex-boyfriends, and see if he would comment about his past.

But thinking about doing this, it might seem weird that you'll randomly mention your ex-boyfriends out of the blue.

If there's enough trust in your relationship, you may not need to ask about his past; conversely, if there's enough trust, he may be comfortable enough to share. Only you know the reading on the TRUST-O-METER.

To answer your question... I do NOT think it's weird for INSECURE people to feel this way. Secure people wouldn't really care.