too terrified.

[Anonymous]

So im pretty sure ive known im lesbian since i was really young but i only admitted it to myself recently. I havent told anyone because im scared of the reaction. i know that i wont tell my parents till i move out (still in high school) but should i tell other people? i have some gay friends who i know would be supportive but i dont know if im ready for everyone to know and i fell like if i tell one person, everyone will know. What should i do?

[Anonymous]

Depending on where you live, people just won't care. When I came out, most people were like "Meh. Good for you." I've read other stories about kids who came out, and the rumor spread like wildfire. I don't think that you should come out to people, unless you trust them implicitly. If you have any doubt that they'll tell someone else, then don't tell them. Your gay friends would be a good start. They should understand if you don't want it to get out.
But that's all if you're ready to come out. You don't have to be. Yeah, people say that it changes things, but not as much as you might think. You're you. You have been you for your whole life. Who/what you want to sleep with has been there the whole time. It doesn't change, whether or not people know about it.

[Anonymous]

Originally Posted by Anonymous

Depending on where you live, people just won't care. When I came out, most people were like "Meh. Good for you." I've read other stories about kids who came out, and the rumor spread like wildfire. I don't think that you should come out to people, unless you trust them implicitly. If you have any doubt that they'll tell someone else, then don't tell them. Your gay friends would be a good start. They should understand if you don't want it to get out.
But that's all if you're ready to come out. You don't have to be. Yeah, people say that it changes things, but not as much as you might think. You're you. You have been you for your whole life. Who/what you want to sleep with has been there the whole time. It doesn't change, whether or not people know about it.

red button. That was me.

[Dewthulu]

Originally Posted by Anonymous

red button. That was me.

MUTHA Sorry it took me three posts to figure out a simple button.

[AloneOutHere]

If i were you i would wait til i was comfortable. but sont worry about them telling. most people that are lgbt know how hard it is to come out and won't tell someone unless you say its fine. But you're very lucky to have a support group like that

[silverhalo]

If you feel comfortable telling your friends then do that, if not you can wait till later. It probably boils down to whether or not you trust them enough to not tell anyone else, if so you could just tell one of them and then go from their.

[Anonymous]

Originally Posted by Anonymous

So im pretty sure ive known im lesbian since i was really young but i only admitted it to myself recently. I havent told anyone because im scared of the reaction. i know that i wont tell my parents till i move out (still in high school) but should i tell other people? i have some gay friends who i know would be supportive but i dont know if im ready for everyone to know and i fell like if i tell one person, everyone will know. What should i do?

Hey, for admitting it to yourself because that's the biggest step. I know it's scary to wonder who you should tell. I would wait until you're ready to tell people. If you feel ready to tell someone but you don't want anyone else to know, make sure you tell someone that you can really trust. It all depends on who your friends are and if they have shown you in the past that they are trustworthy with secrets. If you tell someone, add in that you're not ready for anyone else to knows. Sometimes people need to be reminded it's a secret. I have gay friends that have kept it a secret for years and I have other gay friends that told their gay friends about my sexuality. It all had to do with how much I could trust them and if I told them not to tell anyone or not. Good luck and don't worry too much.