I'm Bisexual but..only for girls who are more "guyish"?

[Anonymous]

Well I realized I am only sexually attracted to girls who are more manly then I am or are more emotionally stable, muscular, crossdressers etc. Does this mean I actually am attracted to guys more?

[phospholipase]

No, no I wouldn't necessarily say anything like that. People come in all shapes and forms and colors and smells and configurations. You're going to find all types of females and males.

For gay men, of course we have the feminine type, the masculine time, and the other 4.5 types ranging in between. A penis makes a man (see additional below). A vagina makes a female.

So a "guyish" female is by no means a male. If you like females, then you like females ("guyish" females are also females, too!)

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There are several different ways scientists have tried to define "male" and female." Below are some of the (less accepted) definitions.
(1) Penis = Male; Vagina = Female
(2) XY chromosomes = Male; XX chromosomes = female

But one these definition fail when you try to determine the sex of other animal species or plants; also humans with mutations can cause the penis/vagina argument fail (consider a chimera, or perhaps someone lacking any external sex organs after a terrible accident); chromosomal trisomies cause the chromosome argument to fail.

One definition that I liked was that males produce gametes (sperm cells) in great numbers. On the other hand, females produce their gametes (eggs) in far smaller numbers. Additionally, sperm cells are much smaller than egg cells. That's the defining characteristics of male/female. Again, one can argue mutations/severance off an organ, but I don't feel like talking about that right now.

[Anonymous]

It doesn't necessarily mean that at all, it might just mean you've found your type and haven't with guys yet. The fact that you've realsed your type for girls might even mean you like them more, as otherwise it might not have been strong and regular enough to you to spot the similarity.

I prefer some of the amusing sociologist attempts to define gender. They say that sex (as in male or female) is physical and therefore biology (and in their view less important) and that gender is behavioural and societal that's where the problems in their definitions then start. Some very amusing attempts.

[Anonymous]

Thank you both of you

[Zontar]

Don't worry. I like girlish twinky guys, and certainly nobody's calling me any straighter for it. :P

[adam88]

There's nothing wrong with liking tomboys, butch girls, cross-dressers etc.

[silverhalo]

Having a preference for more boyish girls is merely the same as having a preference for dark hair or blue eyes.

[xXPsychedelicXx]

No, that doesn't necessarily mean that you like guys more. I'm more attracted to "guyish" girls too.

Speaking from my limited bisexual experience: the intensity of my attraction to either guys or girls changes all the time. Right now, for example, my attraction to guys has pretty much disappeared. Bring on the ladies. Haha! And if those ladies are "guyish", all the better! Then again, I still think Vanessa Hudgens is sexy as hell. But my attraction to men could re-surface at any time, as could my attraction to "girly girls".

Just go with the flow. You don't have to decide which sex you're more attracted to, because that could change at any time. That's the beauty of being bi, isn't it?

[Ianthe]

Are you uncomfortable with the word "butch" for any particular reason?

Most people have some kind of preference as to their partner's perceived masculinity or femininity. It doesn't change which sex we are attracted to physically. Masculine women are women (until they say they aren't).

I mean, saying that if you like butch women, you really like men, essentially implies that butch women are not "real women" somehow. But they are.

Neither being feminine yourself, nor liking masculine girls, nor the combination of these, makes you any less of a lesbian.

[Anonymous]

me do not know if u male or female or mtf but me think...

if you male and you like butch girls only, then me think you may like tomboys. no problem
if you males you like butch girls only and you want butch girl to penetrate you, then me think you gay and in denial.
if you female and you like butch girls only, then me think you lesbian and like butch girl. if you wanted a guy me think you would know how to get one.
if you mtf, me do not know about this. me get confused when it come to that.

[BroadwayDreamer]

Of course not! That just means that butches are more you type, like how I perfer fitly girls, or how a straight woman might prefer a jock or a nerd. Fun thing, being bi, just like Psychadellic said. Secret: Technically, I'm bi, as I like a certain TYPE of guy, but I prefer women any day of the week, so I qualify myself as a lesbian. Words are meant to be tools, but instead labels can be a prison.