masculine guys I need your help

[Anonymous]

I like masculine guys. Gay people r everywhere. So for the masculine nondectectable gay guys on here, how have you flirted with guys you are interested in when you are at non gay places. Please b specific. Finding out what things you do will help me know when someone is gay and interested and giving me the greenlight.

[Anonymous]

I'm masculine and if I'm interested in a guy I just keep staring at him. It's pretty awkward. There is no secret signal for masculine guys but I think the way and times eye contact is made is important. Don't you think?

[Gravity Defyer]

And that was me^

[toremi]

I am bisexual and consider myself masculine, for me it is definitely eye contact. Like they said above.

I am pretty sure it is all in the eyes. I've done it a couple times without realizing it was readable to the gay guys... two of them picked up on it quickly -- but both times it was inconvenient for me to take it further than just that.

But yeah, look for the eyes.

[Anonymous]

I consider myself a pretty masculine gay guy. I always try to make eye contact if I'm around somewhere that I can't easily tell if someone is gay or not (like in class). If I see a really hot guy and wanna try flirting, then I usually just give them a good long stare down. Maybe after a few times of eye contact if they stare back I will attempt to wink at them and see how they react, but nothing is as flirty as solid eye contact.

[robclem21]

HAHA ^ Me! frustrating anonymous post.

[dreamcatcher]

I'm in awe at the whole staring thing. I mean, what if you end up staring at someone and they think you're creep? Or how do you know the difference between the "hey-good-looking stare" and the "hmm-I-wonder-why-he's-staring-at-me stare". O what if they're zoned out and just happen to be staring at you lol. Also, anyone knows if this works with stealthy lesbians? lol

[FJ Cruiser]

I'm not incredibly experienced in this either, but like others have said, eye contact is the key. If they're straight, they won't really make anything of it. Most guys aren't so stoic or paranoid that they'll be weirded out by it, but be sure to move on after awhile. If they start making more than a glancing look back, smile and/or "bro-nod" and see where it goes from there.

[Uniboth]

I was asking about this under the advice section...I'm having loads of trouble with this too. It's way annoying!

[JohnnyBoy]

Im pretty masculine. My boyfriend thought I was just a really friendly straight guy the first few times we got coffee and lunch together.

I'm with everyone else. Eye contact and creepy staring...okay, maybe not creepy, but keep shooting him looks and see how he responds and try and see if you can catch him staring back

[Lexington]

If I've seen a guy I might be interested in a "non-gay" place, I'll just go strike up a conversation. Usually something simple. "I like your shirt - can I ask where you got it?" "Excuse me - I noticed you had these crackers in your shopping cart. I was thinking about maybe getting them. Have you had them before? Are they any good?" Simple, boring conversation topics. If I sense any interest in conversation, I'll keep it going. If I don't, I'll just let it end.

Lex

[Anonymous]

Thks guys. Op here. The staring is really confusing to me because its not like u can tell if the guy likes you or not because there is no smile. Just this blank stare. Also it seems quite passive because do u ever initiate conversation after the stare or do u wait for him to initiate after u stare him down?.lex seemed to b the only one that actually makes a clear move. anything others have specigiv examples of actual action thy have taken outside of staring at someone.

[Lexington]

If you want something to happen, it's usually best to get proactive about it.

Lex

[robclem21]

I agree with Lex. If you want something to happen, then being proactive is the best way to go. Strike up a conversation or just try to talk to them about anything really. Lex's suggestion on topics before are pretty good and should at least get an answer from most guys.

Staring is not a way to get anything done but rather flirt and see how his interest is. Not even about a smile really, personally anyways I can usually tell by a guys eyes and just in his stare if he is interested or not. Straight guys will brush off eye contact like its nothing and if they think its creepy they will probably avoid it more. Another good thing to look for is a double take. I always make eye contact, then look away, then look back again. If there is any interest on his part, he will probable be looking back for more eye contact with you after you stop it the first time.

It's hard to tell if a guy is just a very friendly straight guy or a masculine gay guy but that's inherent in the nature of liking more masculine guys who are likely more closeted than other gay guys (Not always true but in my experience it is rare to find a out masculine gay guy).

Sometimes I just need to build up a little courage and take a risk and tell a guy I think he is very cute. That's not something everyone is comfortable with so just go at a pace that your comfortable with and take it one step at a time. Confidence in yourself is key!

[Anonymous]

OP here, well i tend to try to take a more active approach. if i see someone i like i just try and strike up conversation with them like Lex said. however, i was wondering if i was missing on signals others may be giving me that may have not felt ok to strike up conversation with me. i definitely have seen stares but the person that is staring at me never says anythign or smiles and honestly, i get tired of coming up to everyone all the time. i figure if you are staring at me, then you should be the person to initiate or say something.

[robclem21]

I agree with that last post. I am the same way. It always feels good to be approached for once. I feel like when someone approaches me I am much less self conscious and don't judge everything I do as much (cause I guess they already like me enough to talk to me). Unfortunately, not everybody has that level of confidence.

[Anonymous]

Originally Posted by robclem21

I agree with that last post. I am the same way. It always feels good to be approached for once. I feel like when someone approaches me I am much less self conscious and don't judge everything I do as much (cause I guess they already like me enough to talk to me). Unfortunately, not everybody has that level of confidence.

you are right. i do not really have a problem going up to a guy im interested in if he is staring at me or not. well for some reason once in a gay club i totally chickened out. lol. but that's besides the point. anyway, i agree with what you are saying. it's hard doing all teh work but i have found that gay guys outside of gay environments are really really passive if they are not obviously gay or if they can pass as straight. i guess noone wants to risk being wrong so everyone just stares. i really cannot remember the last time someone i was attracted to took the initiative to talk to me.