What's wrong with me?

[Anonymous]

So I started dating this guy last year, lasted about four plus months and ended pleasantly (due to schedule and interests) but we are still friends and hangout a few times a month.

The real issue is that since we broke up, I have been seeing my ex's ex on a social site and now I have the overwhelming urge to be-friend (possibly more) his ex. First because he's cute and second … I don't know why.

So here's my question. Am I f'd up for having these feelings and should I just block his ex so that I stop thinking about it.

I have no plans to pursue these feelings - rather just looking for opinions as to why I'm having them in the first place.

[Anonymous]

There is nothing wrong with you. Your just going through a confusing time and having alot of mixed emotions. I think you need this

[Anonymous]

Aw thanks. I'll take it

[Lexington]

Three people here. You, your ex, and your ex's ex. None of you are currently dating. That means you're all fair game. If you want to befriend the XX, or ask the XX out, or even just jump straight into bed with the XX, that's your call. Admittedly, it might be nice to keep your ex in the loop. "I've started to get to know XX, and I'm thinking I might like XX more than just as friends. I hope you're not weirded out by that."

Lex

[Anonymous]

Thanks for the responses! I know that this post is a lot less crucial than some of the posts on here, but I do appreciate the input.

So I get that the situation is 'fair game', I just wondering if getting involved with XX is playing dirty. *My X doesn't like and doesn't want anything with XX and doesn't know that I'm having these feelings.*

I'm not sure that XX would even be interested in hanging out, but if hanging out with XX jeopardized the friendship my X and I still have, I'm not sure it would be worth it. **Then again, he is just my X and so the thought that I wouldn't pursue someone, regardless of where it leads, makes me question why I seem to be holding on to the friendship with the X so closely. *

Ultimately I don't want to hurt anyone, not even my X, and there are plenty of other guys to chose from, so if I was being rational, I'd realize all that and let it go. *The only issue that remains is that XX is such a turn on and kinda stays in my head for a whole whenever I think about him.*

Undecided Pisces*

[Anonymous]

me think that you are still trying to bring ex back in your life.
me think there are a million of gay fish in sea and no reason why you try to get ex's ex.
me do not think that is very nice and me think u should block the hottie.

[Anonymous]

(OP) I actually told the ex about it and we had a laugh. And now that it's out there, I'm kinda over it. The X responded way different than I had suspected and somehow that was enough to extinguish the interest that was brewing. Lol. Thanks for all the comments and advice!

[Sunsetting]

Originally Posted by Anonymous

me think that you are still trying to bring ex back in your life.
me think there are a million of gay fish in sea and no reason why you try to get ex's ex.
me do not think that is very nice and me think u should block the hottie.

disagree or agree - i LOVE this lol