Could she like me?

[Anonymous]

Ok so...I met a cute girl today and we (a club at school, as a group) went out to dinner. She rode with me to the restaurant and sat next to me. She leaned her legs toward me and kept laughing with me. I know it's weird but I like her so far. Like.... I'm all excited and giddy.

All the way home from dropping her off I was thinking about her. She is so cute, funny, and ahhhhh I just liked being around her for that short period of time. I haven't really met anyone that I like in a long time. That is gay I mean. She is either gay or bi-sexual, probably gay.

As soon as she got home, she added me on facebook. Does that mean anything? Or that she kept leaning her legs toward me? I'm not sure because some people are just really touchy feely. I'm not so it's different for me. I don't want to read into things too much but could she possibly kind of like me too?

I am going to try to get to know her as time goes on and see if I still like her. I hope I don't sound crazy. It's just weird for me to meet someone that is gay who I'm actually attracted to. Because I'm usually attracted to straight girls.

[Ridiculous]

I don't think you can go as far as to assume that she is interested in you romantically yet, but everything you've said shows that she seems to be very open to atleast being a friend with you. As you said you probably shouldn't read into it too much, especially after just one day of knowing her, but things look promising.

Does she know you are interested in girls? How do you know she is?

[Anonymous]

Originally Posted by Ridiculous

I don't think you can go as far as to assume that she is interested in you romantically yet, but everything you've said shows that she seems to be very open to atleast being a friend with you. As you said you probably shouldn't read into it too much, especially after just one day of knowing her, but things look promising.

Does she know you are interested in girls? How do you know she is?

I'm pretty sure she knows I'm interested in girls. And I know because she said she wasn't straight at dinner.

[Ridiculous]

If I were you I would make it clear somehow that you are, just in case she isn't completely sure.

[Anonymous]

Originally Posted by Ridiculous

If I were you I would make it clear somehow that you are, just in case she isn't completely sure.

This is the OP. Thanks that's probably a good idea. I'm kind of confused on whether she knows about me or not because I may have sent mixed signals about it without meaning to....

At dinner I talked about lesbians and I hinted several times that I'm gay. I said that lesbian porn is not realistic because it would hurt. I said I've been to a gay club but ahh then in the car I said I used to avoid gay stuff because I was afraid people would think I'm gay. Now I kind of want to smack myself for saying that. What I meant was...I used to be afraid for people to know I'm gay. But I have a terrible time telling people about my sexuality. I kind of hope she knows I'm gay but I guess there's always next week? Idk I hope she doesn't think I'm a freaked out straight girl.

I am kind of freaking out now for no good reason because I want her to know I'm gay but I don't know how to say it. I hate coming out to people. I hope I didn't like scare her away but then again, she added me on fb so that means something I guess.

Sorry if I am sounding crazy. I've never met a gay girl that I liked right away and I don't know how to react at all. I had a hard time talking to her without freaking out and I forgot how to get to the restaurant because I was so nervous.

[Ridiculous]

Don't worry, I think it is pretty common for us to be a bit freaked out about whether people have realised we are gay or not in these sorts of circumstances.

When I was in a similar situation (although he wasn't gay or a love interest, but I kind of half-outed myself to him) I sent him a message saying something like "I just want to clarify that I'm gay, in case I wasn't very clear today. It's much easier for me if I know that you know ." She should understand where you're coming from if she's gay as well.

[Anonymous]

Originally Posted by Ridiculous

Don't worry, I think it is pretty common for us to be a bit freaked out about whether people have realised we are gay or not in these sorts of circumstances.

When I was in a similar situation (although he wasn't gay or a love interest, but I kind of half-outed myself to him) I sent him a message saying something like "I just want to clarify that I'm gay, in case I wasn't very clear today. It's much easier for me if I know that you know ." She should understand where you're coming from if she's gay as well.

Thanks so much. I'm so new to this therefore I'm very anxious about it and all. I have never been good around gay girls, even as just friends. I'm totally ok with having her as just a friend but I don't know how this whole thing goes. I don't know if I'm supposed to write a funny message on her facebook since she added me. Just to say hey or to wait until next Thursday? I just want her to think I'm a friendly and nice person, and that I'm not a jerk. Since I was so nervous today when she was leaving I kind of seemed stand-off ish.

Who knows, if it was a straight guy/girl or a gay guy I would feel more sure but gay girls make me incredibly nervous and unsure about every move I make. Move as in even talking to the person.