Bareback vs. Condoms

[Anonymous]

Does bareback feel better than a condom for either the top or bottom or both?

[Ridiculous]

No.

If you are using one of the super-thick rubber insulated condoms.. then perhaps. But those aren't necessary and modern condoms are thin enough to have essentially no impact on sensation.

[Thatsit]

For some reason I feel like a condom would actually feel better for both. But I also have no experience, with or without condom.

Personally, I'm not going to be barebacking until I'm married/hardcore committed relationship.

[Anonymous]

It's totally a different feeling -- regardless of what people will say.

A condom is a condom, it's a barrier and it is a barrier for a purpose. It wouldn't make sense for something to feel the same with a barrier. That would be like feeling touch a silk with a thin, thin, thin glove on... but nevertheless a glove on.

I don't believe in skirting the truth.

But the other question that should be asked is; Is enough of a difference to risk it.

Simple answer; No.

When it comes to playing around with your health it's always better to air on the side of caution. Seatbelts can be uncomfortable to wear, but we wear them for a reason.

[J Snow]

Okay, I've been in a committed relationship with my boy friend for over over a year now, and I've only had sex with one person before him, so to be honest its been a while since I've had any experience with condoms... I know that's going to sound bad and make me out to be a bad role model since me and my bf don't use them, but I absolutely advocate the use of them, and WITHOUT DOUBT you should use them if you aren't in a relationship/haven't been dating long yet.

I personally don't really think it feels different. The only real complaint I have about them is that for some reason my bf had a difficult time staying hard with them, but granted we were both really inexperienced with sex at the time.

Honestly, the reason I prefer not use them doesn't have much to do with sensation. This is probably gonna come off as weird, but I've always kind of wondered if its common or if it may be like some kind of fetish I have. I really like the idea of feeling like, my partner finished inside me and left his "seed" inside me >.< I don't know the best way to say that and make it not graphic/embarrassing (God forbid I post anonymously on the anonymous board) but I think you get the idea. Quite honestly it is the single most appealing part of sex for me. I'm extremely mentally turned on by it.

Again, I absolutely recommend and advocate the use of condoms. I want to make that extremely clear! I am however curious if I'm alone on this. I've never really heard anyone else talk about it that I can recall. I also apologize for any perceived crudeness in my description.

[KaraBulut]

Originally Posted by Anonymous

Does bareback feel better than a condom for either the top or bottom or both?

There are people who will make the argument that it does.

But most of the time, if you use a properly sized condom and put lube on the inside of the condom, you can't feel much of a difference.

[jimL]

Originally Posted by J Snow

Honestly, the reason I prefer not use them doesn't have much to do with sensation. This is probably gonna come off as weird, but I've always kind of wondered if its common or if it may be like some kind of fetish I have. I really like the idea of feeling like, my partner finished inside me and left his "seed" inside me >.< I don't know the best way to say that and make it not graphic/embarrassing (God forbid I post anonymously on the anonymous board) but I think you get the idea. Quite honestly it is the single most appealing part of sex for me. I'm extremely mentally turned on by it.

I most of the time use condoms, but not all the time. Yes I know you should use them all of the time! I think there is a slight reduction in feeling. But is it worth the risk? No! I think the only acceptation to the rule is if you are in a long term committed relationship, and both partners have been tested.

JSnow: I also have this mental excitation about having my bf's seed left inside of me. It's just has this feeling of intimacy.

[Chip]

Originally Posted by jimL

JSnow: I also have this mental excitation about having my bf's seed left inside of me. It's just has this feeling of intimacy.

No offense, but it's comments like that that totally send the wrong message to young people making their initial decisions about whether or not to practice safer sex.

The "seed" being left inside is exactly why millions of people have died of HIV, and, in particular, why many people under 25 are HIV+... because of some misplaced romantic notion that somehow it's "intimate" to participate in extremely risky behaviors.

I am a bit sensitive about it because I know an awful lot of people who are HIV+, many of whom used the same bullshit argument to justify their barebacking... often with a "committed boyfriend who would never cheat"... and now wish they'd done something different.

[Lexington]

The biggest mistake guys make in using condoms is in not using enough lubricant, and especially not using any on the INSIDE of the condom.

The condom isn't supposed to be like a glove. A glove covers the hand, but it isn't supposed to move in relationship to the hand. And as such, you don't get much sensation of touch while wearing a glove. Instead, imagine a mitten that's a bit too large. Where if you grab it around the finger area and move it up and down, it slides back and forth along the fingers. THAT's how the condom is supposed to act.

Lex

[jimL]

Chip is absolutely right. It is how HIV is transmitted. Be safe, ALWAYS use a condom. Sorry if I gave the wrong impression!

[Zontar]

Originally Posted by Chip

No offense, but it's comments like that that totally send the wrong message to young people making their initial decisions about whether or not to practice safer sex.

The "seed" being left inside is exactly why millions of people have died of HIV, and, in particular, why many people under 25 are HIV+... because of some misplaced romantic notion that somehow it's "intimate" to participate in extremely risky behaviors.

I am a bit sensitive about it because I know an awful lot of people who are HIV+, many of whom used the same bullshit argument to justify their barebacking... often with a "committed boyfriend who would never cheat"... and now wish they'd done something different.

You're not being too sensitive about it. In a way, it is a fetish of sorts, and like any other it has the potential to bring harm in practice. This is something that has to be done very judiciously.

Although the idea of it gives me the hots, I don't think I could ever justify the risk. Especially since I don't engage in romantic, committed relationships. Even there you have to be careful...men cheat, after all, much more than women do.

[Anonymous]

I by no means promote unsafe sex -- I just think it is important to speak on my experience and what I know to be true for myself.

I'm not saying condoms make sex unpleasurable by no mean, and certainly the correct condom makes it just as close to natural as you can get as Lex described. My original answer was it is a different feeling -- whether or not it is better is dependant on the person really.

But there is definitely a different feeling -- there is no way it could be the exact same feeling.

Also in my opinion the "rise" people get out of ejaculation within their parter/ within themself comes from the danger of it all. Its not the intamacy really, its the feeling your doing something you shouldn't do together. So the fact you allow it to happen makes you feel like you are closer and more intimate because you are sharing something you shouldn't. If tomorrow they said no facials because it was high risk you'd have ppl wanting to do that left right and centre too!

[J Snow]

Well Chip I apologize i f you felt my post sends the wrong message. Yet again I heavily stress that I don't think there is a difference in sensation and everyone should use them. I admittedly realize I am a very overly trusting and forgiving person. For the record, I've always told my bf if he cheated on me I wouldn't be mad, I would appreciate the honesty so we could make smart decisions.

As for the last anon post, I don't feel for me that it has anything to do with it being wrong or dangerous. I do however think it might come from a desire I have to feel submissive. Just a thought.

I yet again reiterate to everyone in this thread, don't be stupid like me. Just use one.

[Anonymous]

bareback = no safe sex. me scared of this
condom = safe sex. me scared of this too
me think you should have safe sex. me no think bareback worth it.

[Anonymous]

Bareback comes with a horrible nagging sense of dread.... not worth it.