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Old 20th Jan 2012, 07:33 PM   #1
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Default My orientation making me sick with fear??

Ok so I really want to be in a relationship I am ready for that commitment but when I think about being intimate with this girl Im trying to hook up with it makes me sick with fear and anxiety and just all together uncomfortable to a point i cry about it..

I dont know why i am crying either because as i said before i am ready for a relationship.. any advice? is this a normal stage?
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What do you think about when the anxiety hits you? Is it the intimacy, or is it more related to what people with think about you being in a homosexual relationship?
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Old 20th Jan 2012, 08:47 PM   #3
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Well even though I'm in the closet I don't care what people think when they see me, I think its the intimacy and this being my first same-sex relationship and all
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Well even though I'm in the closet I don't care what people think when they see me, I think its the intimacy and this being my first same-sex relationship and all
Well I think the best way to get over your anxiety is to experience a same sex relationship. I think once you'll experience it you'll probably realize its a relationship just like a heterosexual one and you don't really have a reason to feel scared or nervous.
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Well even though I'm in the closet I don't care what people think when they see me, I think its the intimacy and this being my first same-sex relationship and all
Well I think the best way to get over your anxiety is to experience a same sex relationship. I think once you'll experience it you'll probably realize its a relationship just like a heterosexual one and you don't really have a reason to feel scared or nervous.
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Hey I think you are just nervous, its normal to be nervous, just take it slow and you will see there is nothing to be nervous about and you will soon feel better.
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