To be honest?

[Anonymous]

I honestly have never felt strong feelings towards anybody. Legitimately, I never gave two shits about anybody - I never cared about my parents when I was younger, and the only reason I have "friends" is because I know it's harder to get targeted in a group. My grudges fade fast, and I'm seriously apathetic towards life and people in general. I have no interest in any type of relationship, be it intimate or familial or friendly.
However, I do have a powerful sex drive - most teenagers do - and seriously, doing it myself is getting a bit old. How do I find someone to mess around with till my sex drive calms itself?

[Anonymous]

pay an escort

[Chip]

How old are you? Age plays in significantly in this, both in terms of what options there are, and in terms of other issues to look at.

[Anonymous]

I'm 14.

(OP)

[Anonymous]

Whoa, dude. You're only 14. That's a very, very young age. As far as I know, that's below the age for consent to have sex in all the states (I would guess). I'm 20 years old and I'm still a virgin. You don't need to have sex so early! It's kinda creepy hearing that from a 14 year old.

[mAOz]

At 14 you shouldn't be having sex, However I know alot of friends who have and some even younger (UK)

[Chip]

I'm inclined to agree. Sex -- if it's going to mean anything -- is something that should happen with thought and meaning, after you and your sexual partner have had time to get to know one another. Otherwise, sex itself won't really feel any different than masturbating and will be a letdown.

And while I think some people can be more mature socially and psychologically (and physically) than others, I still think 14 is a bit too early to start being sexually active.

One of the biggest mistakes people make about masturbation early on is just rushing through it in a couple of minutes. I don't know if that fits for you, but if so, one of the ways you can make it more enjoyable (not to mention, make yourself more appealing to a future partner) is to learn to take your time and relax and go about it more slowly and thoughtfully. It might sound counter intuitive, but if you practice going more slowly and allowing your body to feel all of the sensations, I think you'll find it gets a lot more interesting and fulfilling. And that, in turn, will also help when, hopefully not sooner than a couple years from now, you're ready to start being intimate with a partner

[Anonymous]

Heh.

Child, let me tell you this. Listen and you listen good.

IF YOUR AGE IS ON THE CLOCK, YOU AIN'T READY FOR COCK!

Idk what the helll is wrong with you kids these days. Talking about whipping your hair when you see haters and....being the the fireball at the party.

Back in my day, we had to be counting strokes! If my mama ever found out I was having sex. She would look for the biggest house in the community and knock on dem gates and tell the house mistress that they got an extra gardener or a maid.

That ain't because sex will make you pregnant. Or STD's or all them other bull. It's because the emotional baggage that goes with it, if not for you then for whoever your gonna be plowing, brings unnecessary drama to life. Unnecessary!
And a young boy needs to be focus!

Get your head out of your ass and stop acting the fool, boi!

[sexyalex]

Sex and emotions play a huge part together.
But it's like water and gas. They can be infused as well as separated.


I remember when I was your age. I was selfish. Pretty much cared about nothing and the world seemed all black and grey to me. However when I was 16, in my 3rd relationship I found the right man who made me realise I wanted...
no,
scratch that...
NEEDED to change and that's because how ugly I felt when he pointed out subtly to me one day how unattractive I had become when I called an old lady a bitch.

I guess, Anonymous, what i'm trying to say is

Rules Of A Gentleman: Some men may never change, while some change for the right person.

I can't encourage you to take release on someone else until you find empathy. That's selfish. But if at 14 your sex drive is that high, focus your energy into some community service or video games. Something that helps to suppress your libido but invokes pleasure at the same time.

-Alex