( Trans ) Questions About Sex?

[Anonymous]

Hello, I am transgendered...

and I was curious to know how other transgendered males handle sex?

I love the thought of wanting to 'go down' on a girl... but I can never imagine going down on a girl... as a girl.

The thought of lesbian sex just escapes me. I don't know how it would be done...

But I do know I could never have it done to me. I hate that part of my body, and any sexual pleasure there would not be pleasure at all. The thought of a girl going down on me escapes me as well. I can't even imagine it...

So, how do other trans people handle sex?

[Anonymous]

Originally Posted by Anonymous

Hello, I am transgendered...

and I was curious to know how other transgendered males handle sex?

I love the thought of wanting to 'go down' on a girl... but I can never imagine going down on a girl... as a girl.

The thought of lesbian sex just escapes me. I don't know how it would be done...

But I do know I could never have it done to me. I hate that part of my body, and any sexual pleasure there would not be pleasure at all. The thought of a girl going down on me escapes me as well. I can't even imagine it...

So, how do other trans people handle sex?

Are you FtM? I just want to make sure I understand correctly. I think going down on a girl is the same for both males and females. It's oral sex both ways and the way you would "go down" on them is the same. I am a lesbian and I think the way I would have oral sex would be similar to how a straight male would have oral sex with a woman. I am referring to the "giving" rather than to the "receiving."

[Anonymous]

Originally Posted by Anonymous

Hello, I am transgendered...

and I was curious to know how other transgendered males handle sex?

I love the thought of wanting to 'go down' on a girl... but I can never imagine going down on a girl... as a girl.

Your language is a little confusing. You seem to be saying you are transsexual, but referring to yourself as a "transgendered male" while saying "as a girl".

Originally Posted by Anonymous

The thought of lesbian sex just escapes me. I don't know how it would be done...

But I do know I could never have it done to me. I hate that part of my body, and any sexual pleasure there would not be pleasure at all. The thought of a girl going down on me escapes me as well. I can't even imagine it...

So, how do other trans people handle sex?

I'm pretty close to asexual in my current state, so I handle it by not doing anything like that most of the time. But just pleasuring someone is still nice, and not really dependant on your own equipment. Stressing too much over that is what makes it tricky. Just enjoy it and don't overthink it. Sex is a special thing, but sometimes people make it too special. It's just sex after all.

[Veronica]

That was me. The damned forum turns "anonymous" back on when you preview.

[seeksanctuary]

If you're FTM, you're a male. Therefore it wouldn't be lesbian sex... it'd be straight sex. Yes, you have "female parts", but you're a male. You're going down on a girl as a male.

It's okay to be uncomfortable, though, and I would talk with the girl you're dating to be sure she sees you as a man that happens to have male parts... not just as a very butch woman. If she understand and accepts you as a male, it makes things easier. Sometimes just knowing the person you're with sees you as a man helps! I used to hate the idea of anyone touching me down there, but now that I am with someone who sees me as a male? It's fine. It also got better after I took T, since it helped my body look more like it should.

But... it all depends on how you see yourself, what would make you more comfortable and what your plans are as far as transitioning.

[Anonymous]

My birth-gender is female, so I have female parts...

And I understand the bit about me going down on her, that bit sounds great! But its the other way around... I cannot imagine someone giving oral to me... because I hate that part of my body. What if she wants to do that?

How would I get pleasure myself? I hate masturbating... and NEVER actually go inside, because again, I hate that organ. So what can I do? I heard of strap ons... but they wouldn't do me any good would they?

[J Snow]

Originally Posted by Anonymous

My birth-gender is female, so I have female parts...

And I understand the bit about me going down on her, that bit sounds great! But its the other way around... I cannot imagine someone giving oral to me... because I hate that part of my body. What if she wants to do that?

How would I get pleasure myself? I hate masturbating... and NEVER actually go inside, because again, I hate that organ. So what can I do? I heard of strap ons... but they wouldn't do me any good would they?

I think there is a large amount differences in trans people when it comes to stuff like that. I kind of get put off by receiving oral during sex, but my bf likes to do it and it doesn't really bother me that much.

Its weird though, I can enjoy masturbating (even though I usually imagine being penetrated).

Just thought I'd relate my experiences. I'm sure someone else will be able to actually help you more with the mechanics of sex that might be helpful.

[Anonymous]

Originally Posted by Anonymous

I heard of strap ons... but they wouldn't do me any good would they?

I'm not sure if I understand your question correctly, but there are strap-ons designed to stimulate the wearer as well (also externally: Strap-on dildo - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia) - if that's what you mean.

[TheEdend]

You have gotten some really good advice so I'll just add some comments

It's okay to be uncomfortable, though, and I would talk with the girl you're dating to be sure she sees you as a man that happens to have male parts... not just as a very butch woman. If she understand and accepts you as a male, it makes things easier. Sometimes just knowing the person you're with sees you as a man helps! I used to hate the idea of anyone touching me down there, but now that I am with someone who sees me as a male? It's fine. It also got better after I took T, since it helped my body look more like it should.

This is pretty important to being able to feel more comfortable with your girlfriend. Does she know that you are FtM? If you haven't told her, then maybe start consider doing it. Its going to be much more comfortable for you knowing that the person who you are with understands how you feel and what its going on.

I think there is a large amount differences in trans people when it comes to stuff like that.

People handle this in very different ways. From what I have heard from people before some make sure to let their partners know that their genitals are off limits, S\some other people, like posters above, don't mind too much and go with the flow and some other people fall everywhere in-between. Either way, find what works for you and then go with it.

As far as strap-ons go, you can give it a shot and see if you feel comfortable that way. You might not like it, but you won't know unless you try it out