I keep feeling like a bad girlfriend.

[Anonymous]

For some strange reason I always feel like a bad girlfriend. My girlfriend keeps saying I'm not but I can't shake the feeling. I'm also a MtF trans in case that matters. I don't know why I feel it. I have been going out with her for quite a few months now, but this feeling has come up in the last two. Can anybody help in any way?

[silverhalo]

Is there anything you noticed around the time it started, or is there any sort of pattern as to when the feeling seems to pop up most?

What do you normally do when you get the feeling?

[Anonymous]

It started a few days after I accepted that I was MtF. It happens at random, but usually it happens when we talk. I haven't figured it out what the subject is that sets it off yet.

[Anonymous]

Try talking to her about it, but not by asking her if you are a bad girlfriend...tell her how you feel at these points, she might be able to help.

Sometimes the way we word things are as important as what we are saying.

[Anonymous]

How could I bring up that in a conversaion? I am always straight to the point. Most people actually call me blunt.

[Anonymous]

Then be "blunt" about it, being that way is sometimes the only way you can get things off your chest....pick a time when you are alone together, and when you get up enough nerve just say what you are feeling....just having the courage to say something no matter how bad you think it may sound is better than holding it inside...sometimes the things you worry about most may be for no reason....If you feel comfortable enough and trust her enough and vice-versa nothing you say should make a bit of a difference.


Communication is key you don't want her to feel like your holding back, this could cause her to hold back as well if she were to sense that your a hesitant to talk to her.

[Anonymous]

Alright then thanks. I'll talk to her as soon as possible.