Not into kissing anymore

[Anonymous]

Hi guys, I have been in a steady relationship with my boyfriend for almost a year now. We're almost like a couple, having mutual friends, going out together, overnights at mostly my place, and all that love making stuff but he has seem to stop wanting to kiss me as of late. When we started out, we would use tongues and kiss pretty much while making love. And then it started to become me giving him pecks and him not liking our tongues to mix anymore. Everything else is fine.

I have tried to ask him why including reasons like bad breath or something I did but everything he would say no or reply with something vague. I doubt that he's thinking of breaking up with me because recently I ask if maybe we should take a step back in the relationship but he said no, he loved me very much. I doubt he's cheating on me because he's pretty much against cheating and we've gone through so much together. I have thought about various reasons including because he's just not into me anymore physically or he's becoming germaphobic, or he does like me anymore but is too afraid to break up with me. It's getting to the point where it's lowering my self esteem as I feel I cannot please him sexually. The same thing can be said for sex, lately I find it harder to make him come orally. It use to be quick but now it takes hours and I keep thinking I'm doing something wrong.

I feel really bummed because We both love each other alot but recently things have been stressing us out especially talks about taking our relationship to the next level like moving in together. He doesn't really want to yet but is not ruling out the possibility in the future. I on the other hand can't wait to get us together so Im starting to thinking maybe our relationship is getting abit one sided. I don't really want to leave him but yet I find the kissing thing to be really stressful as I like kissing and I feel that it is a physical act of love. Its 5am and I can't sleep trying to figure out the reason why -_-'' (if it helps he's 28 and I'm 27)

[TheEdend]

Does he know how you feel about everything and how much it bothers you that he doesn't kiss you anymore? If he doesn't know exactly how much its bothering you, then perhaps that would be the first thing you should do.

I have tried to ask him why including reasons like bad breath or something I did but everything he would say no or reply with something vague.

What did he say when you asked why he didn't kiss you as often anymore? Did he give you any sort of explanation?

[Anonymous]

I think he does. Everytime I try to kiss him during love making he'd turn to the side and let me kiss him on the cheeks instead. He lets me kiss him everywhere except on the lips then I'd ask him why in a hurt voice and he'd laugh and brush it off as nothing or give me a force one sec tongue kiss.

I asked him on the phone last night and he say he doesn't know and just brush it off or change the subject.