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Anonymous · 24th Jan 2012, 06:09 PM

I am in love with my best friend, a straight guy. He knows I have a crush on him but that's not all. I can't stop thinking about him. In class I often don't pay attention and think about him, and one night I even cried because I missed him so much. I'm really upset with myself because I don't want to change our relationship as friends. I don't want to be in love with someone I can't have. I wish there was some way that I could make these feelings go away so it could stop bothering me. Does anyone have advice?

JohnnyBoy · 24th Jan 2012, 06:13 PM

I wish in the same shoes as you before I came out...I had the biggest crush on my best friend and couldn't stop thinking about us being together but devastated because I knew he was straight and it could never happened. It took me time, but I just kept telling myself "He's your best friend, he's straight, it'll never happen"...when I came out to him and told him I used to like him, it freaked him out and he didn't talk to me for months...time went on and he realized I didn't like him anymore and just missed him as my best friend. He got over it and we're still best friends today...time heals everything

Charni · 24th Jan 2012, 06:14 PM

Be thankful that you can be friends with him. Quite a few people have crushes/feelings for people and they can't even be friends with them for various reasons. Are you both best friends with each other? If so then at least you have that. Not many people get to have/be a best friend. Unfortinantly you can't instantly stop liking somebody (except in some cases but none apply to this). Have you told him yourself you like him or do you think he knows?

Anonymous · 24th Jan 2012, 06:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Charni

Be thankful that you can be friends with him. Quite a few people have crushes/feelings for people and they can't even be friends with them for various reasons. Are you both best friends with each other? If so then at least you have that. Not many people get to have/be a best friend. Unfortinantly you can't instantly stop liking somebody (except in some cases but none apply to this). Have you told him yourself you like him or do you think he knows?

I have told him I have a crush on him, but he doesn't know how serious I am about it and about how much I think about him and stuff. We've never talked about it.

Anonymous · 24th Jan 2012, 06:46 PM

Time... You'll get over it eventually.

Hana Solo · 24th Jan 2012, 10:06 PM

Time. That's all it is. Stay away from him if you can, when you find yourself thinking about him change your thoughts, whatever you do don't listen to music about love, and let time heal you. It's taken me two years to accept that my first love will never pan out, or even be friendly, but I still love him.

It's a long journey to forget someone.

24th Jan 2012, 06:09 PM	#1
Anonymous Posting Anonymously Posts: 34,191 Join Date: Dec 2007	How to forget someone? I am in love with my best friend, a straight guy. He knows I have a crush on him but that's not all. I can't stop thinking about him. In class I often don't pay attention and think about him, and one night I even cried because I missed him so much. I'm really upset with myself because I don't want to change our relationship as friends. I don't want to be in love with someone I can't have. I wish there was some way that I could make these feelings go away so it could stop bothering me. Does anyone have advice?

24th Jan 2012, 06:13 PM	#2
JohnnyBoy I like tuhtles Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: St Louis Age: 22 Posts: 165 Join Date: Jan 2012	Re: How to forget someone? I wish in the same shoes as you before I came out...I had the biggest crush on my best friend and couldn't stop thinking about us being together but devastated because I knew he was straight and it could never happened. It took me time, but I just kept telling myself "He's your best friend, he's straight, it'll never happen"...when I came out to him and told him I used to like him, it freaked him out and he didn't talk to me for months...time went on and he realized I didn't like him anymore and just missed him as my best friend. He got over it and we're still best friends today...time heals everything

24th Jan 2012, 06:14 PM	#3
Charni EC's part-time Guru in training Full Member Gender: Physically male, mentally everything but male. Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: My girlfriend and 8 others Location: Australia! Age: 16 Posts: 774 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: How to forget someone? Be thankful that you can be friends with him. Quite a few people have crushes/feelings for people and they can't even be friends with them for various reasons. Are you both best friends with each other? If so then at least you have that. Not many people get to have/be a best friend. Unfortinantly you can't instantly stop liking somebody (except in some cases but none apply to this). Have you told him yourself you like him or do you think he knows? __________________ And on an unrelated note you should join the dark side.

24th Jan 2012, 06:46 PM	#5
Anonymous Posting Anonymously Posts: 34,191 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: How to forget someone? Time... You'll get over it eventually.

24th Jan 2012, 10:06 PM	#6
Hana Solo EC's Dear Abby- talk to me! Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Mostly into girls Out Status: Closet is getting a little crowded Location: Not even a dot on the Australian map Age: 17 Posts: 1,089 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: How to forget someone? Time. That's all it is. Stay away from him if you can, when you find yourself thinking about him change your thoughts, whatever you do don't listen to music about love, and let time heal you. It's taken me two years to accept that my first love will never pan out, or even be friendly, but I still love him. It's a long journey to forget someone. __________________ Thor: No matter what he's done, Loki is from Asgard and is my brother Black Widow: He killed 80 people in two days. Thor: ...adopted. ~The Avengers, 2012

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