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Anonymous · 28th Jan 2012, 09:07 PM

So, I was wondering. Does penis size matter? I especially ask this question because all gay guys I have been around seem obsessed with it being huge. I am not even going to try to lie and say I have a huge penis, but the thought that I can be so critically judged because of something I can't control is concerning.

So does penis size matter? Or is it the person that matters?

Sunsetting · 28th Jan 2012, 09:14 PM

penis size does not matter at all

i care about people who are loving, caring, we help each other to grow, thoughtful, sensitive, creative, have a good sense of humor... and NONE of those has anything to do with penis size.

it's not the size of the boat, but the motion of the ocean

your friends are obsessed with the wrong thing

Anonymous · 28th Jan 2012, 09:19 PM

Personally, I don't care at all if it's small or big. All I care is that it belongs to someone I like.

Sunsetting · 28th Jan 2012, 09:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Anonymous

Personally, I don't care at all if it's small or big. All I care is that it belongs to someone I like.

this is great

Allegro molto · 28th Jan 2012, 09:37 PM

I couldn't care less, actually. I think it's how you use it, no matter what size (not that I'd know about that). /virgin

Anonymous · 28th Jan 2012, 09:45 PM

Never been with a guy, unfortunately, but I don't forsee caring much about size. I'd be just as concerned with a very large penis as I would with a very small one, and in either case it'd have to be quite pronouncedly unusual in size for me to care at all.

Anonymous · 28th Jan 2012, 09:58 PM

Coming from a small guy perspective, this is going to be biased... I don't think penis size matters that much. First of all, it is out of your control... Second of all, if people judge whether they want a relationship with you based on your junk, should you really be in a relationship with that person?

Also, I have been with my boyfriend for some time now... He has been very nice and sensitive about my size... Just sayin', there are nice guys out there who don't want you because of what's down there, but they want you because of what's in there (character).

Sunsetting · 28th Jan 2012, 10:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Anonymous

Coming from a small guy perspective, this is going to be biased... I don't think penis size matters that much. First of all, it is out of your control... Second of all, if people judge whether they want a relationship with you based on your junk, should you really be in a relationship with that person?

Also, I have been with my boyfriend for some time now... He has been very nice and sensitive about my size... Just sayin', there are nice guys out there who don't want you because of what's down there, but they want you because of what's in there (character).

And you are proving why you have a bf. You have the absolute right perspective man!

phospholipase · 28th Jan 2012, 11:05 PM

I'd like to get to know a boy before I do anything with his penis... so penis doesn't matter. It'll take a sparkling personality and pretty face before the penis situation comes up.

Anonymous · 29th Jan 2012, 12:28 AM

It depends on who you are dealing with. I'm not gonna lie, there are some people out there who just want a big penis and are put off at the idea of having anything else. it happens, for some people they care. On the other end i have also personally met people who want nothing to do with big penises and only want to date someone who is average or smaller. My personal opinion is always it's not the size but how you use it, although i admit to liking the idea of that part of a guy being a little bit bigger. Although to big does become a turn off imo.

**Ben** · 29th Jan 2012, 01:32 AM

If I have a choice at the buffet, I'd usually choose a cucumber over a zuccini.

But if you're willing enough to get into someone's pants, then it doesn't really matter how big they are. It's just a nice surprise (for me at least) if they've got a lot to show. It's a nicer surprise if someone knows how to work it. And when you're with someone for a long time, then it really doesn't matter at all. In fact, big ones can be a bit of a pain at times.

NeecoVirus · 29th Jan 2012, 03:34 AM

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Originally Posted by Ben

If I have a choice at the buffet, I'd usually choose a cucumber over a zuccini.

But if you're willing enough to get into someone's pants, then it doesn't really matter how big they are. It's just a nice surprise (for me at least) if they've got a lot to show. It's a nicer surprise if someone knows how to work it. And when you're with someone for a long time, then it really doesn't matter at all. In fact, big ones can be a bit of a pain at times.

That's really true. . . Assuming the cucumber and zuccini are both delicious. However, if the cucumber was rotting... I would choose the zuccini over the cucumber.

Anonymous · 29th Jan 2012, 03:43 AM

To me, size matters to a certain extent. If if my boyfriend is too small, I'd sure as hell won't reject him, I'd still love him the same way, but there's just that feeling of frustration that you can't help.

Shades of Gray · 29th Jan 2012, 04:26 AM

If I am to be completely honest? Yeah, I'll probably be a fair bit more turned on if it's bigger. Would that make it better for sex? Not necessarily...especially if you, er..like bottoming..bigger is not necessarily better.

And I may (or may not) be in the minority here, but sex doesn't really mean that much to me. I just view it as a consequence of a romantic relationship, and the content of the person is what really matters there, not the nature of one's genitalia.

Anonymous · 29th Jan 2012, 04:45 AM

It's not how big, it's how mean.

To be honest, I don't care at all. As long as it's not a micro penis, that is.

JohnnyBoy · 29th Jan 2012, 08:54 AM

Doesn't matter to me. I was with my boyfriend for about 2 months before we did anything more than kiss and we both were pleasantly surprised with each other when we got that far

**KaraBulut** · 29th Jan 2012, 10:05 AM

It depends on what you're asking.

If the question is "Does penis size matter to pleasure?". Maybe. A guy who knows what he's doing can get you off with a finger, so a big penis isn't necessarily the tool that's needed for the job.

If the question is, "When you look at porn, does a big penis matter?". Sure. Just like big tits or a big ass matters for straight guys. Or the way a big belly matters for guys that like daddies and bears.

If the question is, "Do you chose your boyfriends by their penis size- does it matter?" Well, it seems from reading through the posts above that the answer in most cases is "No, it doesn't matter".

robclem21 · 29th Jan 2012, 10:25 AM

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Originally Posted by Anonymous

Personally, I don't care at all if it's small or big. All I care is that it belongs to someone I like.

This is my favourite post ever I think!

Anonymous · 29th Jan 2012, 11:50 AM

doesn't matter; NO!!!

Dewthulu · 29th Jan 2012, 02:02 PM

I don't think that it matters. In my opinion, size is something nice to look at, but I wouldn't base anything on it. It's out of your control, anyway. Don't hold anything by it. I know a guy who would be considered "big", and he's a total

. On the other hand, a guy who's smaller, I'd love to be closer friends with. In my experience, the smaller guys are better friends anyway.

28th Jan 2012, 09:07 PM	#1
Anonymous Posting Anonymously Posts: 34,191 Join Date: Dec 2007	Penis size-Does it matter? So, I was wondering. Does penis size matter? I especially ask this question because all gay guys I have been around seem obsessed with it being huge. I am not even going to try to lie and say I have a huge penis, but the thought that I can be so critically judged because of something I can't control is concerning. So does penis size matter? Or is it the person that matters?

28th Jan 2012, 09:14 PM	#2
Sunsetting Banned Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: bi, straight, gay Out Status: to some family and friends Location: New York Age: 42 Posts: 950 Join Date: Dec 2011	Re: Penis size-Does it matter? penis size does not matter at all i care about people who are loving, caring, we help each other to grow, thoughtful, sensitive, creative, have a good sense of humor... and NONE of those has anything to do with penis size. it's not the size of the boat, but the motion of the ocean your friends are obsessed with the wrong thing

28th Jan 2012, 09:19 PM	#3
Anonymous Posting Anonymously Posts: 34,191 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Penis size-Does it matter? Personally, I don't care at all if it's small or big. All I care is that it belongs to someone I like.

28th Jan 2012, 09:37 PM	#5
Allegro molto Kyoufu wo oshiete yarou. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Kinsey 6 (100% Gay) Out Status: Officially told 1 person! Posts: 2,323 Join Date: Apr 2011	Re: Penis size-Does it matter? I couldn't care less, actually. I think it's how you use it, no matter what size (not that I'd know about that). /virgin __________________ In the end, I always end up alone.

28th Jan 2012, 09:45 PM	#6
Anonymous Posting Anonymously Posts: 34,191 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Penis size-Does it matter? Never been with a guy, unfortunately, but I don't forsee caring much about size. I'd be just as concerned with a very large penis as I would with a very small one, and in either case it'd have to be quite pronouncedly unusual in size for me to care at all.

28th Jan 2012, 09:58 PM	#7
Anonymous Posting Anonymously Posts: 34,191 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Penis size-Does it matter? Coming from a small guy perspective, this is going to be biased... I don't think penis size matters that much. First of all, it is out of your control... Second of all, if people judge whether they want a relationship with you based on your junk, should you really be in a relationship with that person? Also, I have been with my boyfriend for some time now... He has been very nice and sensitive about my size... Just sayin', there are nice guys out there who don't want you because of what's down there, but they want you because of what's in there (character).

28th Jan 2012, 11:05 PM	#9
phospholipase forgets to uncheck anonymous box Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: All but family Location: Los Angeles Age: 20 Posts: 189 Join Date: Jan 2012	Re: Penis size-Does it matter? I'd like to get to know a boy before I do anything with his penis... so penis doesn't matter. It'll take a sparkling personality and pretty face before the penis situation comes up.

29th Jan 2012, 12:28 AM	#10
Anonymous Posting Anonymously Posts: 34,191 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Penis size-Does it matter? It depends on who you are dealing with. I'm not gonna lie, there are some people out there who just want a big penis and are put off at the idea of having anything else. it happens, for some people they care. On the other end i have also personally met people who want nothing to do with big penises and only want to date someone who is average or smaller. My personal opinion is always it's not the size but how you use it, although i admit to liking the idea of that part of a guy being a little bit bigger. Although to big does become a turn off imo.

29th Jan 2012, 01:32 AM	#11
Ben Was Invisible. EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Age: 20 Posts: 3,697 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: Penis size-Does it matter? If I have a choice at the buffet, I'd usually choose a cucumber over a zuccini. But if you're willing enough to get into someone's pants, then it doesn't really matter how big they are. It's just a nice surprise (for me at least) if they've got a lot to show. It's a nicer surprise if someone knows how to work it. And when you're with someone for a long time, then it really doesn't matter at all. In fact, big ones can be a bit of a pain at times.

29th Jan 2012, 03:43 AM	#13
Anonymous Posting Anonymously Posts: 34,191 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Penis size-Does it matter? To me, size matters to a certain extent. If if my boyfriend is too small, I'd sure as hell won't reject him, I'd still love him the same way, but there's just that feeling of frustration that you can't help.

29th Jan 2012, 04:26 AM	#14
Shades of Gray EC's insomniac Regular Member Gender: How about...feminine bear? :P Orientation: Phys attr: bi. Sexual attr: gay. Rom. androcentric Out Status: Everyone that matters, except father and extd. fam Location: Montana or Seattle, dependent on time of year. Age: 20 Posts: 647 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: Penis size-Does it matter? If I am to be completely honest? Yeah, I'll probably be a fair bit more turned on if it's bigger. Would that make it better for sex? Not necessarily...especially if you, er..like bottoming..bigger is not necessarily better. And I may (or may not) be in the minority here, but sex doesn't really mean that much to me. I just view it as a consequence of a romantic relationship, and the content of the person is what really matters there, not the nature of one's genitalia.

29th Jan 2012, 04:45 AM	#15
Anonymous Posting Anonymously Posts: 34,191 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Penis size-Does it matter? It's not how big, it's how mean. To be honest, I don't care at all. As long as it's not a micro penis, that is.

29th Jan 2012, 08:54 AM	#16
JohnnyBoy I like tuhtles Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: St Louis Age: 22 Posts: 165 Join Date: Jan 2012	Re: Penis size-Does it matter? Doesn't matter to me. I was with my boyfriend for about 2 months before we did anything more than kiss and we both were pleasantly surprised with each other when we got that far

29th Jan 2012, 10:05 AM	#17
KaraBulut EC Health Expert EC Expert Gender: Male Location: US Posts: 3,961 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: Penis size-Does it matter? It depends on what you're asking. If the question is "Does penis size matter to pleasure?". Maybe. A guy who knows what he's doing can get you off with a finger, so a big penis isn't necessarily the tool that's needed for the job. If the question is, "When you look at porn, does a big penis matter?". Sure. Just like big tits or a big ass matters for straight guys. Or the way a big belly matters for guys that like daddies and bears. If the question is, "Do you chose your boyfriends by their penis size- does it matter?" Well, it seems from reading through the posts above that the answer in most cases is "No, it doesn't matter".

29th Jan 2012, 11:50 AM	#19
Anonymous Posting Anonymously Posts: 34,191 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Penis size-Does it matter? doesn't matter; NO!!!

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Dewthulu The 14th Doctor Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Kinsey 5 Out Status: Most of my friends as bi, few as gay. Location: Berkshire County, Massachusetts Age: 18 Posts: 629 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Penis size-Does it matter? I don't think that it matters. In my opinion, size is something nice to look at, but I wouldn't base anything on it. It's out of your control, anyway. Don't hold anything by it. I know a guy who would be considered "big", and he's a total . On the other hand, a guy who's smaller, I'd love to be closer friends with. In my experience, the smaller guys are better friends anyway. __________________ May the memories of your darkest days be regarded with less weight than that of a dream.