Does porn = cheating?

[JohnnyBoy]

In your opinion, does it? Currently, my boyfriend are 2 hours apart and don't get to see each other that often even though our relationship is very serious. We've talked about porn and both agree that it's not cheating and being apart can be very rough. We sext and what not but sometimes we both use porn as a means of arousal. It's not an everyday thing, just occasionally we both need a little 'help'. Is this bad? Do you guys think porn should be outta the question once you're in a relationship?!?

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[silverhalo]

I think each relationship is different, if you both know about it and agree it isnt cheating then I dont see a problem.

[No One]

I think by definition of the word "Cheating" porn most definitely isnt. Some people may not like their partners looking at porn, but it isnt cheating.

I personally dont think there is anything wrong with it, and I actually like the idea of watching porn with my partner.

[Zontar]

If your boyfriend/girlfriend thinks porn is cheating, they have severe jealousy issues.

I personally don't care about what my loved one does just as long as they don't hoard the good shit from me. If you're browsing around the 'net and come across my favorite type of guy doing my favorite type of fetish, you damn well better send me the link. =)

[Dewthulu]

I am a male hetero-demisexual, and just "vanilla" homosexual, and I have a girlfriend. I don't see looking at gay porn as "cheating", per se. I do crave another man, sometimes, and that's kinda my release. That being said, I try not to look at any the day of a date- before or after. That seems a little disrespectful, to me.

[Lexington]

Watching porn isn't cheating.
Acting in porn is.

Actually, cheating isn't the activity - it's the mindset behind it. If you go out and have wild monkey sex with a bunch of strangers...but you and your partner have previously agreed that either of you can do that at any time, then you aren't cheating.

If you sneak out behind your partner's back just to meet up with a guy to hold his hand, and nothing else, then you're cheating.

Your partner and you have decided that watching porn and masturbating to it isn't cheating, and therefore it isn't.

Lex

[NeecoVirus]

I'll have to be honest, started dating my boyfriend a while back, and I haven't looked at porn since. It isn't that I think it is cheating, just for me, I don't really have the need to look at porn. I fancy my partner, and that's it.

I stated the above, not to sound all self righteous, but to show that even though I don't look at porn myself now, I can still state that if my partner wants to look at porn, then power to him.
I'll reiterate once more, I do not think porn is cheating. Would staring at a hot guy walking down the street be considered cheating? I don't think so. Think about it this way, if you use a sex toy, is that cheating? Porn is just another form of arousal. For me, if nothing happens physically with my boyfriend and another person, then its not cheating.

[Chip]

There's a lot of data looking at gay couples, and a pretty large percentage of them use porn (individually and together) within the relationship. As long as it doesn't become a distraction to the relationship, there's no problem with porn in a relationship. If a guy thinks otherwise, he's got some serious insecurities.

[seeksanctuary]

My guy and I are both perfectly happy... and encourage each other... to watch porn. Especially if we're apart. :] We're currently in a LDR (but only for about another week) and have been for a few months, but we've known each other for seven years and have always been porn-positive. Sex-positive in general, really. To us, it's absolutely not considered cheating and is a healthy, normal thing.