Is it wrong to feel like this?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend went out with his ex boyfriends and I'm so jealous seeing pictures of them together and having a good time. I feel so awful because I want him to stop seeing them. I know that im a very selfish but I can't help feeling like this all the time.

[Anonymous]

Talk to him, see what he thinks.
Maybe he'd be willing to cut back his communication with his ex.
However, if he's making an effort then you'll have to as well (which you should already) to fix your jealousy issues that are making things hard in the first place.

[Lexington]

Why don't you go out with them?

Lex

[Anonymous]

Op here, I didnt go along because firstly I was working when they went out and second I happen to look at his hp phone and saw a thank you message from one of his ex for meeting up. After confrontation he said he only met up with that ex for 5 mins and it was his birthday.

[Lexington]

OK, first thing - don't look at his phone anymore.

Secondly, try to work on moving beyond feeling like that. My partner goes out with friends all the time without me. (He doesn't go out with exes, simply because they all live a long way away, but if they lived here, he could go out with them, as well.) Why? Because we have different ideas of a good time. He loves movies and going out drinking, neither things I enjoy. So when he gets in the mood to see a film or go out partying, I tell him to have a good time...then I go out to a concert with my music-loving friends.

Lex

[Anonymous]

Friends is alright I guess. But when he goes out especially with ex's in secret, that is a whole different thing. I dont purposely take his phone to spy but when I stumble across something like this it kinda hurts but it's not a big deal to him. He said he hasn't seen them for a year already.