guy approached me and i lied about not being gay..

[Anonymous]

i was at this bar (straight) and this bartender started up a conversation with me. there weren't that many people around so i didnt think anything of it. at first i did not think he was gay but then he started asking me if i was dating anyone and i thought....hmmm

long story short, he told me he was gay and asked me if i was. i said no. he told me he was surprised i was single because he felt i was attractive. he then started talking about how hard dating was for him and he started to tell me of all the promiscious dating he had been doing. honestly it was really too much information. it sounded like he had a lot of random sexual partners and maybe he was trying to add me to the list.

anyway, i politely changed the subject and just drank my drink and got out of there

my question is, when he asked me if i was gay i said no and kinda felt like i was lying (im trying to come to grips with things). however, after all the stuff he told me i was glad i didn't tell him. i didn't want to be associated with that.

i know his random hookups had nothing to do with me but i was glad i didn't say anything because i feel like i do not want to "waste it" on people that i really don't want to have anymore dialogue with. is that wrong?

[dennisvkn]

Well if you weren't interested and for your own safety what you did is right

[Beachboi92]

What you really experienced probably wasn't a normal gay guy coming onto you. What you experienced was probably a bar tender looking for good tips xD it's common practice for bartenders of either sex to flirt with anything buying drinks from them. It means they get to make more money and he probably was hoping to get you all enticed in his sexual prowess to achieve that goal. In fact most bartenders at gay clubs are straight men. The more you know. Although don't take this the wrong way because he really could have just found you attractive and been really bad at hitting on men haha