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Anonymous · 31st Jan 2012, 02:29 PM

Okay here is the thing I am a lesbian and I prefer to where men’s clothing, whenever I go shopping I get weird looks and comments such as my personal favorite: “You know this is a men’s clothing store?” I was just wondering if anyone else has thought that it would be easier if their was some kind of gender neutral clothing line….A happy medium for everyone, a style that a man or a woman can rock…What do you think? Am I just crazy?

Anonymous · 31st Jan 2012, 03:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Anonymous

Okay here is the thing I am a lesbian and I prefer to where men’s clothing, whenever I go shopping I get weird looks and comments such as my personal favorite: “You know this is a men’s clothing store?” I was just wondering if anyone else has thought that it would be easier if their was some kind of gender neutral clothing line….A happy medium for everyone, a style that a man or a woman can rock…What do you think? Am I just crazy?

Maybe shop at a store that sells both women, kids, and men clothing. I worked at old navy and I had women and men who bought opposite clothing from there gender. I also had women buying kids clothes because she is so tiny that nothing else fits her.

I shop and wear men pants. 1. They are for taller people. 2. I like my pants legs straight. 3. Women everything is either boot cut etc. In the summer unless I am going out I will wear men shorts and t-shirts, or button ups.

A medium is what you make it. Maybe buy men pants and women tops. If you are truly concerned. Unless I told you my jeans were men jeans you wouldn't have a reason to question.

Also think about what's your style? What do you feel like for the day. I am in college sweat shirts everyday. I swear everyday! I also like the boy kinda bohemian look. When I wear a dress I like that girly feel. Most of the time I prefer the guy style. I am starting an internships this summer and I have to look professional so I will look professional (suit, tie, skirt, dress).

Bottom Line; Dress which ever way you want! Punk rock, thug, jazz. Whatever! Just do you! No matter what! If that store is continually being rude, they are not worth your money!

seeksanctuary · 31st Jan 2012, 07:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Anonymous

I get weird looks and comments such as my personal favorite: “You know this is a men’s clothing store?”

And that's where you reply:

"Yeah, and are YOU the one buying my clothes?"

Or if the person is an employee:

"And this is me taking my money elsewhere."

... Complete with a complaint to the manager, because employees have ZERO business commenting on a customer's clothing selection, gender, etc.

Mlpguy88 · 31st Jan 2012, 07:41 PM

I said this to someone else once but I'll say it again. Wear whatever your comfortable with, it really shouldn't matter. Because when you think about it women should wear pants and men should wear skirts, just based on anatomy it makes sense. Actually earlier today I was thinking how uncomfortable my jeans were, it was really frustrating

Maybe I should buy a kilt.

Anonymous · 31st Jan 2012, 07:44 PM

Questions like those are precisely the reason I've never experimented with my gender identity.

thecat06 · 31st Jan 2012, 07:55 PM

I am in the same boat as you. I usually go to department stores and go in the men's section. I sometimes get some funny looks, but most people really don't care.

NeecoVirus · 31st Jan 2012, 08:09 PM

My question is, why care what people say? You are you? Be who you are.

If someone calls you derogatory terms for being les or gay or whatever, does that stop you? I don't think so...

Point being is, people's ignorance shouldn't hinder you from being the amazing person that you are. If you are that worried about it, just say you're buying for a friend...

maverick · 31st Jan 2012, 08:43 PM

Q: “You know this is a men’s clothing store?”

A: "Thank you, Captain Obvious. I don't think I'd have ever figured it out on my own."

I don't know why anyone would bother commenting anyway, who says you're even buying the clothes for you? Maybe you're shopping for a gift or something, it's really none of their business one way or the other.

I wear/buy men's clothing, but I usually buy it at stores which carry clothing geared at both genders.

Chouchou · 31st Jan 2012, 09:44 PM

Yeah, whoever said that to you was being incredibly rude and condescending. Next time that happens, you can tell that employee that if s/he doesn't want or appreciate your business, you will visit another store.

Don't mean to make it about money, but why would employees discriminate against a customer who might make a purchase in their store, thereby contributing (albeit indirectly) to their incomes and job security? If they question a customer's motives for shopping at their store, that customer may never shop there again, and may even tell his/her friends not to shop at the store because of its rude employees.

Anonymous · 31st Jan 2012, 11:47 PM

I've seen men at Victoria's Secret but no one ever asks "Why are you here?" People assume they are buying gifts for women. Strict gender roles are ridiculous.

Anonymous · 1st Feb 2012, 12:47 PM

OP here:

Thank you all, some of these even made me laugh.

Anonymous · 1st Feb 2012, 12:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Anonymous

Questions like those are precisely the reason I've never experimented with my gender identity.

Aaaw...that sucks.

31st Jan 2012, 02:29 PM	#1
Anonymous Posting Anonymously Posts: 34,192 Join Date: Dec 2007	Gender and its relationship to clothing. Okay here is the thing I am a lesbian and I prefer to where men’s clothing, whenever I go shopping I get weird looks and comments such as my personal favorite: “You know this is a men’s clothing store?” I was just wondering if anyone else has thought that it would be easier if their was some kind of gender neutral clothing line….A happy medium for everyone, a style that a man or a woman can rock…What do you think? Am I just crazy?

31st Jan 2012, 07:41 PM	#4
Mlpguy88 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Not out at all Location: Michigan Age: 21 Posts: 515 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Gender and its relationship to clothing. I said this to someone else once but I'll say it again. Wear whatever your comfortable with, it really shouldn't matter. Because when you think about it women should wear pants and men should wear skirts, just based on anatomy it makes sense. Actually earlier today I was thinking how uncomfortable my jeans were, it was really frustrating Maybe I should buy a kilt.

31st Jan 2012, 07:44 PM	#5
Anonymous Posting Anonymously Posts: 34,192 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Gender and its relationship to clothing. Questions like those are precisely the reason I've never experimented with my gender identity.

31st Jan 2012, 07:55 PM	#6
thecat06 EC's Biggest LNJF and SNL fan!! Full Member Gender: Let's say Pangender! Orientation: Let's say gay!! Out Status: Out to parents, campus, and 75 friends on facebook Location: Central and Northern Ohio Age: 19 Posts: 2,460 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: Gender and its relationship to clothing. I am in the same boat as you. I usually go to department stores and go in the men's section. I sometimes get some funny looks, but most people really don't care. __________________ So many years have passed, since I proclaimed my independence, my mission, my aim, and my vision, so secure, content to live each day like it's my last, it's wonderful to know, that I could be, something more than what I dreamed, far beyond what I could see -Dream Theater

31st Jan 2012, 08:09 PM	#7
NeecoVirus Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Posts: 32 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Gender and its relationship to clothing. My question is, why care what people say? You are you? Be who you are. If someone calls you derogatory terms for being les or gay or whatever, does that stop you? I don't think so... Point being is, people's ignorance shouldn't hinder you from being the amazing person that you are. If you are that worried about it, just say you're buying for a friend...

31st Jan 2012, 08:43 PM	#8
maverick let watchers become warriors Full Member Gender: You tell me. Orientation: Hey good lookin'. wink Out Status: It's pretty obvious. Location: Alabama cue banjos Age: 26 Posts: 2,118 Join Date: Nov 2010	Re: Gender and its relationship to clothing. Q: “You know this is a men’s clothing store?” A: "Thank you, Captain Obvious. I don't think I'd have ever figured it out on my own." I don't know why anyone would bother commenting anyway, who says you're even buying the clothes for you? Maybe you're shopping for a gift or something, it's really none of their business one way or the other. I wear/buy men's clothing, but I usually buy it at stores which carry clothing geared at both genders. __________________ Shelter me oh genius words, just give me strength / to pen these things, and give me peace to well her wings / and oh, oh carry on, all you minstrels of the world, we will catch our lady's ear, we will win for us the girl.

31st Jan 2012, 09:44 PM	#9
Chouchou Warrior Goddess Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Homosexual (asexual?) and mostly homoromantic Out Status: To some friends, but not to family Location: Wisconsin, USA Age: 26 Posts: 1,101 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Gender and its relationship to clothing. Yeah, whoever said that to you was being incredibly rude and condescending. Next time that happens, you can tell that employee that if s/he doesn't want or appreciate your business, you will visit another store. Don't mean to make it about money, but why would employees discriminate against a customer who might make a purchase in their store, thereby contributing (albeit indirectly) to their incomes and job security? If they question a customer's motives for shopping at their store, that customer may never shop there again, and may even tell his/her friends not to shop at the store because of its rude employees. __________________ "The good neighbor looks beyond the external accidents and discerns those inner qualities that make all men human and, therefore, brothers." -- Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

31st Jan 2012, 11:47 PM	#10
Anonymous Posting Anonymously Posts: 34,192 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Gender and its relationship to clothing. I've seen men at Victoria's Secret but no one ever asks "Why are you here?" People assume they are buying gifts for women. Strict gender roles are ridiculous.

1st Feb 2012, 12:47 PM	#11
Anonymous Posting Anonymously Posts: 34,192 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Gender and its relationship to clothing. OP here: Thank you all, some of these even made me laugh.