Changing

[Anonymous]

Well now that I am mostly out, things have started to change for me. The problem is that I am not sure that it is a good thing or a bad thing.

When I first came out, I was a person that was very strong in my faith. I was a christian at a very homophobic church. I was in a leadership position and thought that I would always be somehow involved in the church. Well, then, just before I went to college I came out to some friends that I knew would not care. They accepted me. I then came out to my mother and she was fine with it. I then went to college.

I decided to be completely out as college. I have since joined the campus pride group and and have made many different lgbt friends.

I haven't gone to church since I left home. In fact, I have gotten to the point where I don't even want to go to church when I go home. I feel that my beliefs differ from them. The thing is that I feel like it happened too fast. I feel like I changed overnight. Does anybody else feel like this?? Does anybody else feel like their life has been put on a completely different track since coming out??

I'm just scared that I am scared of becoming myself.....

[Lexington]

It sounds like the changes you made were...well, I'll say the "correct" ones. Not because I'm anti-Church, but because you made the choices, and you seem to have taken to them like a duck to water. Some people end up not needing to make much "adjustment" to life outside the closet, whereas others might feel the need to shuffle things around some more. If you no longer feel a tie to that church, feel free to search for another one. There ARE gay-friendly churches out there.

Lex

[Anonymous]

if you actually still have faith, in something, you may want to check into a MCC (metropolitan community church) in your area, they are non denominational church that speak in general about faith and have a huge LGBTQ following... the mcc that i have attended in the past had members of the pagan religion and baptist as well as atheists.... they are just a welcoming community who want to make everyone feel that they are loved.... good luck