overthinking

[Anonymous]

hey everyone,

i just wanted to get something out there. lately ive been thinking about all the stupid things i have done in my past, every single mistake ive made and make, and every bad thing i do, i cant stop thinking about it. i know i should just let it go, its in the past and i can change from that but lately ive just been getting anxiety and worrying too much about all those things and things that im afraid will happen in the future. i have this reoccuring thought in my head that ive messed up too many things with people and i should just remove myself and run away because things will be better with me not around. if i do something wrong i cant forgive myself even when others are way over it, and normally its just something small. i cant help getting anxious when im talking to someone new or someone i like, and instead of trying to be myself and acting normal i say stupid things and normally regret them later. then i give up on this new relationship because i feel as though ive messed up everything and they hate me. i feel like everything im doing is selfish and like im acting like a complete idiot every second of the day. i dont feel confortable in my own skin or environment even though nothing has changed since i was little. and i cant stop thinking of what other people think of me, i know deep down that i shouldnt care and just live my life because there is no point wasting it on things like that, but how do i get out of these negative habits. i know this sounds really childish and stupid and i appologise if it doesnt make sense, i was just wondering if anyone has any advice or is in a similar situation?

[Uniboth]

I have the same problem. I can't stop second guessing every word I say. Every time I send out a text or email, I would reread it/them a couple of times before AND after I send/t them out just to make sure I didn't say anything wrong. Somehow... I always find something wrong.

It's a sad reality that I'm just too tired to care about now. I can't be bothered anymore. It's a bit of an OCD that has been greatly amplified by my latent insecurities and my inability to believe that I'm worth more than shits people say about my sexuality.

All the best man!! Keep your head high and be proud... life is better lived with a grain of salt!

I've started to meditate, about 20 mins a day. I'm pretty much out of idea and meditation is basically my last resort. The results you get from meditating is slow to come, which has, surprisingly, helped distract me from all the shit I think about.

Try it! Initially, it'll give you minor headaches because, lets face it, clearing your mind just isn't easy, but once you get the hang of it...it actually feels nice! You won't see any real improvements for at least a few months to a year but it's better than not improving at all. ever.

[Anonymous]

i am the same with texts as well, i just hate upseting people or saying the wrong thing and i stew over and over before i send it and then the anxiety kicks in, even if it isnt an important message, thanks for the advice i will try it out, its my last resort as well haha, im glad its helped you

[ukeye]

I have this too.. it is OCD and anxiety. It used to be a LOT worse for me.. I find as I've gotten older it has subsided naturally.. like the old proverb goes 'you can please some people some of the time, but you can't please all of the people all of the time'.

Sometimes my head gets locked into things I've said or done and I get hooked on it.. its like a thought loop..and I beat myself up.. it stinks when it happens. I have found thinking of my own mortality and the fact that I am still alive and moving forward.. Just try and remember that hey, everyone stuffs up and make mistakes, its human nature and we are all learning. So theres a few things that help me - hope I've helped !

[Anonymous]

thank you, it really has helped