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Anonymous · 1st Feb 2012, 08:40 PM

I'm not out at all. I felt good about how I looked tonight so I think I was putting out feramones or something. I went to the store and was a little tired and saw like 10 gorgeous guys. Then I had the strangest experience of my life and I had three guys come on to me almost one after the other; two in the store and one in a park while I was walking home. THEN I ran into a guy I already know who I think is gay and is BEAUTIFUL in every aspect and I DIDN'T ask him for HIS number!

WTF?!?! I'm NOT out, I don't want to be out, but I want to be out! I guess this is more of me feeling stuck, than anything else *sigh*

phospholipase · 1st Feb 2012, 09:37 PM

Do you live in an accepting community? Do you have a supportive family or circle of friends? If you can say yes to both of the questions, then I recommend taking a plunge by seeing if you can form meaningful, romantic relationships with other men. You don't have to label yourself yet. If I had a beautiful guy come up to me, I'd be all over him hahaha

Anonymous · 1st Feb 2012, 10:46 PM

I really wanted to respond, but I didn't know what to do. And then when I really wanted to get to know this other guy, I wasn't even brave enough to do that. I'm really petrified to take that plunge.

1st Feb 2012, 08:40 PM	#1
Anonymous Posting Anonymously Posts: 34,219 Join Date: Dec 2007	Not out and don't want to be, but I do want to be I'm not out at all. I felt good about how I looked tonight so I think I was putting out feramones or something. I went to the store and was a little tired and saw like 10 gorgeous guys. Then I had the strangest experience of my life and I had three guys come on to me almost one after the other; two in the store and one in a park while I was walking home. THEN I ran into a guy I already know who I think is gay and is BEAUTIFUL in every aspect and I DIDN'T ask him for HIS number! WTF?!?! I'm NOT out, I don't want to be out, but I want to be out! I guess this is more of me feeling stuck, than anything else sigh

1st Feb 2012, 09:37 PM	#2
phospholipase forgets to uncheck anonymous box Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: All but family Location: Los Angeles Age: 20 Posts: 189 Join Date: Jan 2012	Re: Not out and don't want to be, but I do want to be Do you live in an accepting community? Do you have a supportive family or circle of friends? If you can say yes to both of the questions, then I recommend taking a plunge by seeing if you can form meaningful, romantic relationships with other men. You don't have to label yourself yet. If I had a beautiful guy come up to me, I'd be all over him hahaha

1st Feb 2012, 10:46 PM	#3
Anonymous Posting Anonymously Posts: 34,219 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Not out and don't want to be, but I do want to be I really wanted to respond, but I didn't know what to do. And then when I really wanted to get to know this other guy, I wasn't even brave enough to do that. I'm really petrified to take that plunge.