apparently, i have multiple problems

[Anonymous]

Okay so here's the deal...
I have issues with overanalyzation. :P You see, i'm worried that i am wrong about my sexuality (lesbian). Pour example, when I'm in the locker room and all the girls strip down to their panties, well..i don't exactly go mad with desire. I don't really feel anything. (jeeze, i'm sucha creep sometimes..) anyway, my problem is sometimes i dont feel anything toward the same sex, just lonliness. After the initial high of excepting my gay-ness, my life seems so dreary. Has anyone else felt like this and how did you get past it?
thanks!

[Anonymous]

Originally Posted by Anonymous

Okay so here's the deal...
I have issues with overanalyzation. :P You see, i'm worried that i am wrong about my sexuality (lesbian). Pour example, when I'm in the locker room and all the girls strip down to their panties, well..i don't exactly go mad with desire. I don't really feel anything. (jeeze, i'm sucha creep sometimes..) anyway, my problem is sometimes i dont feel anything toward the same sex, just lonliness. After the initial high of excepting my gay-ness, my life seems so dreary. Has anyone else felt like this and how did you get past it?
thanks!

I've definitely felt this way. I have been in locker rooms/apartments where I saw pretty much naked women (with only their bras and underwear on) but it didn't turn me on either. I think this is because I only get turned on by women that I have feelings for or by some random woman I find super attractive. I don't think you are wrong if you feel like you are a lesbian. Being a lesbian doesn't mean you will be attracted to every woman you see or every naked woman you see.

Maybe you are more of a romantic person so you won't desire them "madly" unless you have more feelings for them. Also, you'll find someone someday so don't worry too much. I know it's hard... I feel the same way as you. I'm trying to get past it now so I can't give much advice on how to get past it yet. Just know you're not alone in this.

[Anonymous]

I'm so new to this because I haven't given myself the light of day. It wasn't until a week ago I actually realized I was Bisexual. I still am struggling to understand if I'm Lesbian or not. I really need to meditate and slow down, to find peace and discover who I was born to be. (: But I will say one thing, for me, when I'm in the locker room next to girls undressing, I don't go mad with desire. Because it takes a certain special someone to steal my heart. Just like it takes a while for a straight girl to have a crush, lesbians and bi's take just as long. It aggravates me when I hear kids at my school say things and talk like "lesbians are attracted to every girl they lay their horny, desperate eyes on." Its ridiculous and so untrue. But yes, I have gone "mad with desire" when a beautiful, wonderful, and hilariously funny girl I had a crush on transferred to my gym class. Whenever she undressed in the lockerroom, I had to turn away to control myself. Hehe, I sound silly. XP

Hope I helped.

[silverhalo]

Hey dont worry about it, I was 25 before I realised I was gay and I had seen plenty of girls in real life and on the telly in their underwear, just because you might be gay doesn't mean you feel the urge to jump on the next half naked girl you see. As one of the other posters has said sometimes people gain attraction by getting to know people, im a bit like this. I also found that the more comfortable I became with being gay and the more I came out the more I found people attractive.