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Old 12th Mar 2012, 12:27 AM   #1
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Ehehe this is so strange.

Anyways. I'm a girl. Whenever i masturbate, i usually just end up rubbing my clitoris because that's what feels good. Whenever i finger myself, it doesn't feel arousing at all. Nothing. Nada. Zilch. Zero. When other people finger me, it's amazing, i just can't do it by myself.

Any ideas why? Am i really weird... Or doing it wrong or something?
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Old 12th Mar 2012, 10:45 AM   #2
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Default Re: Can't get myself off?

Can you tickle yourself? Do you think there's something wrong with you because you can't?

In other words, you're totally fine. Having somebody else work you over is a completely different experience than working yourself over.

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Old 12th Mar 2012, 10:49 AM   #3
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See I have the opposite problem lol.
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Old 12th Mar 2012, 08:10 PM   #4
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Can you tickle yourself? Do you think there's something wrong with you because you can't?
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Ahaha that made me smile. Thanks
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Old 12th Mar 2012, 08:34 PM   #5
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maybe it's because I'm new at this. I only masturbated for the first time a few weeks ago, and I've been trying a lot and reading a lot since then, but I don't think I've ever had an orgasm and I don't know how to get there.

I've always been ashamed to touch myself, but since I started a few weeks ago I've noticed that I have an easier time not cutting...

but is it possible to orgasm by masturbating? I want to experience it, but I'm still working through my feelings of shame and self-hate, so it'll probably be a looong time before I am able to allow another person to touch me. could it be possible that it's my feelings of shame are preventing me from experiencing sexual release?
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Old 12th Mar 2012, 08:40 PM   #6
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Not a girl so my advice is limited. However, when I finger myself I don't find it that enjoyable either. That doesn't mean there's anything wrong. We just get off better when others do it to us instead.
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Old 13th Mar 2012, 04:51 AM   #7
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Oh, believe me, it IS possible to orgams with masturbation. I would know it! I'm like you, I work just fine with my clit but still have to find a way to do it the other way take your time, experiment, dont' feel ashamed, find out what you like, and eventually you'll get there.
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Ehehe this is so strange.

Anyways. I'm a girl. Whenever i masturbate, i usually just end up rubbing my clitoris because that's what feels good. Whenever i finger myself, it doesn't feel arousing at all. Nothing. Nada. Zilch. Zero. When other people finger me, it's amazing, i just can't do it by myself.

Any ideas why? Am i really weird... Or doing it wrong or something?
Oh there's nothing wrong with that. Females can't always get off from just penetration. The clitoris is there for the sole purpose of making you feel sexual pleasure.

As for it being pleasing to be fingered by another person, that just might be because someone else is doing it. If I bit my shoulder, I wouldn't feel anything but awkward, but if my girlfriend bit me, I would totally lose my mind. There's nothing wrong with that
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