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Old 20th Mar 2012, 10:42 AM   #1
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Default does "take care" in text mean dont contact me again?

when someone ends their text by saying "take care" does that universally mean dont contact me or reach out again if you are not really that great friends with a person or just meet them and you're trying to feel them out if they are gay and after a while they end up saying "take care".
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Old 20th Mar 2012, 11:22 AM   #2
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I have a friend who ends EVERY conversation with "Be CAREFUL!" Even in person. In that "Oh my God, you're about to go swimming with sharks in your raw-meat swim trunks" sort of way. That's just how he ends conversations. I finally learned that if I say "Hey, YOU be careful, too!" back to him, he's happy.

"Take care" has a vaguely "this is the end of this particular conversation" feel to it, but it doesn't necessarily mean "don't even talk to me again" either. "Have a nice life" would do that.

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I dont think so I often end conversations with take care and certainly not because I dont want to talk to them again.
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It would depend on the context and where this person's from. Here, it's something used just to end a conversation, but it's mainly used by older people!
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I know a lot of people that end conversations with "take care", and I use it myself occasionally. I've never known it to mean "get the hell out and don't contact me ever again"; instead it just means "Hey, take care of yourself until we talk next time, OK?"
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I've always thought of the expression "take care" as being a highly affectionate way of saying "goodbye." So, yeah, definitely don't automatically assume it to mean "don't talk to me." Try to figure what they take it's meaning to be, if you can.
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When talking in english, I end EVERY SINGLE CONVERSATION with "take care". I'm sure that if someone checked on my posts on EC, they would find that 99% of them end with "take care".
That certainly doesn't mean I don't want to talk to the person anymore. That means "I hope you'll be fine and will take care of yourself until next time we'll talk."

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Most of the time people use it as a way of saying bye and they'll talk to you later. Still I'm surprised people still end conversations in text nowadays. My friends and I are rude as we just stop replying.
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It would depend on the context and where this person's from. Here, it's something used just to end a conversation, but it's mainly used by older people!
Gah, "Take Care" is pretty much how I always end letters, e-mails, and conversations. Old at 34.
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It can go either way I think, depends on how the person using it meant by it....they could be genuine and want you to be happy/healthy or they may not want to talk to you again....I guess the best way to know is by asking "What did you mean by take care?" At least that is what I would do.
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It can go either way I think, depends on how the person using it meant by it....they could be genuine and want you to be happy/healthy or they may not want to talk to you again....I guess the best way to know is by asking "What did you mean by take care?" At least that is what I would do.
op here. well since it is a guy i dont want to seem clingy so i think im just going to chalk it up as he was wishing me well. if he is interested and wants to talk to me he will text me back at some point but i will not initiate. if i never hear from him agian, then i will know that take care meant leave me the eff alone.
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For me , I only say it when I somewhat care about the person.
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