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Old 24th Mar 2012, 04:44 PM   #1
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Does This Make Sense?

So I'm physically female. But sometimes I would like to be a guy, not usually for long, just for a bit. Not like androgynous though. I'm not extremely girly, but I can be pretty feminine, and it's completely obvious that I am. And I like being that way. It's just some days I want to be a guy, more like it's obvious (masculine and such). It's not like I'm transgender, because that's a full on commitment and I don't feel like I was born in the wrong body; for the most part I'm happy being a girl. And androgynous doesn't seem like me either. I know this probably sounds like I'm bi gender. But this feeling of wanting to be a guy comes very sparingly, and I don't want to be around people (friends, family, acquaintances) like this, more like be a whole new person elsewhere. But I can't see changing my physical appearance. It's more like I want to be a new person at times. I can't see myself being in guy clothing and with the whole short hair, more like I wish I was in a complete guys body when I want to be. Does anyone get what I mean?
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Old 24th Mar 2012, 08:16 PM   #2
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Hmm, I get what you're saying. I'm androgynous, but I don't want to be a guy, but there are times when I kinda wished I was, but I don't believe I'm transgendered. I've never heard of being bi gendered, but I I'll look into it. Maybe you should try talking to a therapist or counselor about this. It's something you shouldn't keep locked up inside. It will only confuse you more.

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Old 24th Mar 2012, 09:29 PM   #3
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Re: Does This Make Sense?

I sort of feel a similar way. Not gonna lie the "I want to be a girl but..." post was definately me. Haha. I however don't want to have an entirely male body, just not too girly I guess... sometimes, but I also enjoy my long hair, makeup and dresses most of the time. I suppose it's more like I want to be adrogenous... occasionally. Don't ever think your feelings don't ;make sense because they probably do. (: Like the above poster said you may want to talk to a counselor just to help you sort out your feelings because it isn't good to keep them bottled up.
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Old 26th Mar 2012, 06:02 PM   #4
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Re: Does This Make Sense?

I have the same thing from the other end of the spectrum, a lot of that sounds really familiar. I'm male and by default think of myself as male, but I feel sort of a pull toward being female, or at least feminine. A lot of my sexual fantasies involve taking on a feminine role or identity, it's really exciting to imagine it, but I don't particularly want to stay there. There's a lot of self-judgment and fear wrapped up in it and I don't know where it all fits. I don't feel like I'm the wrong gender, I don't hate my body. It could be more toward transvestism or a feminization fetish, or a burgeoning bi-gender identity I haven't quite made sense of yet. I just know I like to "be" for a while and then "be" 'myself' again.

The only advice I feel confident about is this: take your time sorting through it. You're not on a deadline. This is my biggest handicap, I want to solve everything immediately. But to answer your question, yes, I recognize a lot of those conflicting impulses and wants. It'd be nice if we could just flip back and forth at will!
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Old 26th Mar 2012, 06:38 PM   #5
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Re: Does This Make Sense?

I've occasionally wanted to be a girl, and no not in the usual perverted way. I'm very comfortable with being a guy, its just that sometimes on rare occasions I just feel like being a girl. The idea of being in a girl's body just seems like it would be natural. Honestly I'm having trouble putting my thoughts into words, but I guess my point is it could be sort of like being 99% straight with a few cases of more homosexual feelings, except for gender identity.

Am I making any sense at all? Because re-reading that I feel like I'm being so cryptic.
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