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Old 27th Jun 2012, 12:25 PM   #1
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Default I think I have spent so much time alone/single that..

If I come out.. I don't think I know how to have a relationship.
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Old 27th Jun 2012, 12:54 PM   #2
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Default Re: I think I have spent so much time alone/single that..

Having a relationship is like lots of other things - you need to practice. None of us know how to interact with people at the start - it takes a bit of faith and vulnerability to put ourselves out there and get some experience. We get a few bumps and bruises along the way, but that's what life is about.

The rest of the world is waiting to meet you... especially that someone special that wants to build a life with you.

Best wishes as you venture out into the full-contact sport known as life.

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Old 27th Jun 2012, 11:38 PM   #3
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Default Re: I think I have spent so much time alone/single that..

Who says you need to have a relationship right after you come out? Take your time.
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Old 28th Jun 2012, 03:02 AM   #4
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Default Re: I think I have spent so much time alone/single that..

Relationships are like bikes, really. You can study bikes for 10 years, knowing everything there is to know about them... and then hop on one and lose your balance straight away. There's no substitute for experience. But it's only by the falling that you learn just how to ride a bike. And often, the bike is sturdier than you think, and it can survive a few falls too.


So, I think that when you come out, and you see the opportunity for a relationship, the only way to go is to move forward and see where it goes. Don't see it as a "but I waited so long to come out! I must do this perfectly on the first try!"
See it as a "hey, this is more of a relationship than what I had before, so it's progress!"

And if you really feel stumped... there's still this place to vent and ask for input


More to the point, though: do work on coming out. It's easy to be scared at what happens five steps down the road, but taking that first step can do a lot of good. Do you have anyone in your life that you think would make a good candidate for a first coming out?
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I got into my first relationship at 29. Trust me, it comes naturally.
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