Hate feeling this

[Anonymous]

Do you ever get so mad that you can feel the rage building under your skin, you grit your teeth, tap your feet anxiously, and try to distract yourself with calming tasks but nothing helps? I wish I could trash my house and afford to fix all of it once the rage has subsided.

I have been feeling a white/red rage lately. I don't like it. I hate feeling this way. I am afraid I'm going to blow a gasket on someone who doesn't deserve it. Ideally I would have a punching bag and beat the crap out of it, but I don't.

How do you deal with intense anger/rage? I need constructive ways. I already do art, and try to exercise and it is still there.

[dennisvkn]

Are you saying that you got mad of nothing unreasonably ?
It might be because of the changing of hormones in your body (or period :/), i guess.
I do experience this sometimes, my solution is to take a quick nap or listening to music (the best kind of music to calm yourself down in this case are those such as elevator-like music/ a.k.a Muzak, or your favorite light music type - don't try metal or heavy rock it might get worse xD). Hope it helps !

[Gravity]

If you aren't noticing any trigger for this anger - or whatever triggers you do notice seem to be relatively minor comparing to the reaction you're having - then your anger might be the result of some other stress in your life, possibly even something that, although you realize is undesirable, you don't realize is getting under your skin so much.

So, back up from the situation for a second. First, what do you think is causing your anger in the immediate sense (what seems to set you off in the here and now)? And second, what larger things are going on in your life at the moment, and is there any of it that you would change if you could?

[Peanuts]

Just cry. I'm not even kidding, crying is incredibly therapeutic and is an emotional response to too much stress in the body. I'm not really a crier myself but I'll cry when I need to. If not, I'll usually just write an emotional "diary" (that no one sees) and emo it up to release anger/frustration/sadness.

What I find also helps is abusing the hell out of your pillow or other soft objects, because there's moments where you really just need to break stuff, but you're not actually breaking stuff. Or just scream when no one's around.

I mean, I know they sound like typical responses but I wouldn't be saying them if I haven't done them and if they didn't work. It's great that you're trying to use your emotions productively but sometimes you need something a little more... primal and emotional.

[thecat06]

I will usually try to find some calming music. I have found that calming music has helped me a lot. You could also try to write your feelings down. This might help you find what is triggering your anger.