|23rd Jul 2012, 12:34 PM||#1|
Join Date: Dec 2007
I'm a 24 year-old female and I've been incontinent my whole life. The type of incontinence I have means i'm constantly leaking a bit 24/7 and have to wear incontinence pads all the time. as a child many attempts were made to cure it but nothing worked, i now haven't spoken to doctors about this in over ten years because i'm too embarrassed to go back and i doubt that anything will ever be able to fix this now.
i've never had a proper relationship or sex with anyone, mainly because i know i would have to tell the person about this as its not something i can hide. it isn't just that i'm too embarrassed by it to tell anyone (nobody knows about it except my parents), i don't think anyone will want to be my girlfriend if they knew about it. Even if someone was willing to look past this i feel guilty about them being stuck dealing with this when they could be with someone who works properly.
whichever way i think about it, i just don't think i'll ever be able to be in a relationship or anything ever. i know there's nothing anybody here can do about this, i just can't talk to anyone in real life about it
|23rd Jul 2012, 12:51 PM||#2|
Join Date: Dec 2007
A lot of ladies experience the "leaky problem" after childbirth, so I suspect you are not the only one with the problem.
I don't wish to belittle the problem you have, but there are many more severe things you could be challenged by. If you find the right person, I can't imagine that this would be an issue for you bother.
Low self-esteem is your problem, rather than leaky plumbing.
As to see a lady doctor, ask to see a specialist and you'll be working with people who see this sort of thing all day long.
I have a real sense of fun and love making people laugh. I once worked with a lady who was always having to change because I made her laugh and she'd wet herself. We just got used to Sandra and her little probem - and I treid very hard to resist the temptation to make her laugh on purpose.....
Joking aside - ten years is far too long to have left things - you need to go and get a girlie M.O.T. with a lady doctor who has seen it all before.
|23rd Jul 2012, 12:56 PM||#3|
Empty Closets Advisor
Out Status: Out to everyone
Join Date: Nov 2011
Well, two things - WHEN you meet someone who's willing to look past it, it won't be because they're "settling" even though they "could do better." There is much, much more to you than this one aspect, and they will be attracted to those things.
And I agree with the last poster - absolutely go see a doctor again. You're still very young and there are a lot of possible solutions that may still be open to you. Now is the time! Plus doctors deal with this kind of thing all the time, you won't phase them one bit.
"If you didn't think it would hurt your reputation, what would you choose?"
|23rd Jul 2012, 03:14 PM||#4|
Out Status: Quite a few
Join Date: Dec 2008
Tournaments Won: 21
I know its really embarresing but I do think it might be worth visiting the doctors again, a lot of research can change in 10 years, so you never know. Perhaps someone could go with you?
Secondly I have to agree with everyone else, when you find the right person it really wont matter to them. They wont be settling to be with you, they will want to be with you.
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