Would this be a bad idea???

[Anonymous]

I was wondering if this would be a bad idea to tell my one friend that I might be gay?

The reason for telling her is I want somebody to talk to about what's I'm going through and get help.

Lately I have been having these feeling for guys such as when I see them on tv or movies and shirtless I find my self staring!!

Even if a guy is running and I always look even if it's for a second.

Even reading about to guys kissing turns me on!!!

I get along a lot better with girls then guys and when I ask would they ever go on a date with me I'd we weren't friends they said no because I have some quality !!

I'm really confused and want help to figure out these feeling but don't know what to do ? Andy suggestions !!!????

Please can you help with these feelings and have suggestions!!

[kitsune309]

I think it's entirely dependent on who your friend is. Test the waters by talking about gay issues, asking her what she thinks about gay people, and getting a feel for if she's homophobic or cool with it or whatever.

Then if she passes the test, tell her about your feelings.

[Orcas]

Hi there! As long you trust your friend and know that she is accepting and supportive, I think it would a good idea, in particular if you feel that you need to talk to someone about your feelings and thoughts. Friends can be a great source of support and it sounds like that you could benefit from that.

Give it some thought. If you feel that you have found an opportune moment to come out to her give it a try.

When it comes to figuring things out, try to explore your feelings and follow what you feel is right for you. Trust your instincts. If something doesn't feel right, stop and try to understand as to why this is the case. You have a few clues and insights already, which will help you to figure things out. Perhaps you could benefit from speaking with a counselor who can guide you through your thoughts/feelings. Having the security of the surrounding four office walls and knowing that everything you confide to your counselor will stay with him/her might allow you to open up deeper, allowing for increased clarity and insights down the road.

Plus, and depending on how comfortable you would feel at this stage, try finding a LGBT support group in your area. Also, try talking to a few EC members, and ask them if they would be willing to share their experiences with you. Talking to others and understanding their experiences in figuring out their sexualities and coming to terms with it, could help you in understanding your own feelings better.

Hope this helps.