What does this mean?

[Anonymous]

I'm 19 year old man and I have been questioning my sexuality a lot

one thing I remebered was the night after my high school graduation I had this friend who he who is really nice and in to his faith.

That night he came up to me and gave me a hug and a congrats on graduating high school but what he did was he put his hands on my shoulders and looked into my eyes and said I'll pray for you. During that moment i remember feeling a tingle in my stomach and it felt really right not awkward or anything.

I have a lot of friends who are girls and everyone thinks are good looking and when I have gave them hugs I don't get any feelings just like a friendly hug. http://emptyclosets.com/forum/images.../hugsmilie.gif

What does this mean? Does this mean I'm gay? Has anyone ever had these feelings and gone through something like this? http://emptyclosets.com/forum/images/smilies2/help.gif
This confusion makes me feel like

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Your faithful friend saying he'll pray for you doesn't mean much, other than that he will pray for you. It doesn't mean he "knows anything" about you or how you're struggling.

Just because you have a lot of friends who are girls doesn't mean you're gay necessarily, but you said you feel nothing when you hug them or anything. You could consider them as just friends, and want nothing more. You could be gay, you could be straight, you could be asexual, you could be bi; you're questioning at the moment, and everyone here knows what you're talking about when you ask if we've gone through that.

Thing is, you didn't give a perspective on how you view the same sex, in terms of romance or sexual attraction. After all, that's what gay is, attraction to the same sex, simple as that.

[Anonymous]

Hmm so many possible explanations for this

- "I'll pray for you" - I pray for all my friends 'cause that's what religious people do
- "I'll pray for you" - I sense you're into guys and my religious principles say that's wrong so I'll pray that you get "fixed" cause I like you as a friend and only want good things to happen to you
- "I'll pray for you" - I sense you're into guys and I know that feeling but it's against my religious principles so I'll pray that you get cured the same way I hope I get cured one day

The strange feeling you had could be some sort of spiritual/religious experience if you're into those sorts of things - could also be feeling attracted to that guy friend if you're into those sorts of things

I predict more self-questioning on your part before you start to get answers. Everything in due time.

[Anonymous]

[QUOTE=Anonymous;1121537]Hmm so many possible explanations for this

- "I'll pray for you" - I pray for all my friends 'cause that's what religious people do
- "I'll pray for you" - I sense you're into guys and my religious principles say that's wrong so I'll pray that you get "fixed" cause I like you as a friend and only want good things to happen to you
- "I'll pray for you" - I sense you're into guys and I know that feeling but it's against my religious principles so I'll pray that you get cured the same way I hope I get cured one day


I wasn't looking into the fact of him saying I'll pray for you I was looking into the fact that I liked when he put his hands on my shoulder and looked into my eyes and how it made me feel ..

Originally Posted by QueVidaLaMia

Thing is, you didn't give a perspective on how you view the same sex, in terms of romance or sexual attraction. After all, that's what gay is, attraction to the same sex, simple as that.

Lately I have found other guys attractive and wanting to find out more about these feelings

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Originally Posted by Anonymous

I wasn't looking into the fact of him saying I'll pray for you I was looking into the fact that I liked when he put his hands on my shoulder and looked into my eyes and how it made me feel ..

Sorry bout that misunderstanding^. My bad.

Originally Posted by QueVidaLaMia

Thing is, you didn't give a perspective on how you view the same sex, in terms of romance or sexual attraction. After all, that's what gay is, attraction to the same sex, simple as that.

Lately I have found other guys attractive and wanting to find out more about these feelings[/QUOTE]

You've found other guys attractive, then, and this is at least a curiosity. If you want to find out more about it, you could try talking to a trusted friend about how you feel, just telling them anything that gets in your head about it. Even try experimenting, but don't do things you think you'd regret.

Maybe even talk to yourself-- try something introspective. How comfortable would you feel as being gay? Is it different than what you felt when you considered yourself straight? Which feels more... usual, normal, for you? You might have to do that for a while-- it takes time to know, there's no way around that.