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Old 31st Jul 2012, 10:47 PM   #1
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Hello everyone. I'd just like to get your opinion on some things. I should probably mention that I'm a girl who def loves other women, but I'm still questioning. So, tonight I got drunk. Not falling down drunk, but warm and relaxed drunk. Since I'm still questioning, I decided that it might be a opportunity to "test the waters" via fantasy since stress wasn't a factor. So, I fantasized about men and became aroused and all that jazz. Now the confusion in facing here is when I'm sober, it's hard for me to fantasize about men let alone get aroused by them..although it has happened before. My question is: did alcohol show me the truth? Or did it mess with my true perception? Now that I'm sober again, I don't think I want that kind of stuff with a guy. What do u think?
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I doubt that alcohol "showed you the truth" of the situation, but more to the point, if you need to be under the influence of alcohol to be aroused by even the thought of being with a man, then being with a man in a relationship probably isn't going to work out long-term.
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You mentioned the fact that "stress wasn't a factor". That intrigues me. What exactly do you mean by that? Do you usually feel stress when fantasizing about men? Or was it just a prophylactic measure, so to speak?
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You mentioned the fact that "stress wasn't a factor". That intrigues me. What exactly do you mean by that? Do you usually feel stress when fantasizing about men? Or was it just a prophylactic measure, so to speak?
OP- i've been feeling stress with questioning in general, but i feel more stressed and uneasy and sometimes disgusted when thinking about men. What i meant was, sometimes i feel like the stress and depression i feel makes it harder to fantasize about guys because sometimes i think i try to control my feelings toward the situation, so if i was in a state of relaxation, i wouldn't be doing that and i would just be feeling. At least thats my theory, i dunno if it played out like that.
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