|4th Aug 2012, 04:30 PM||#1|
Join Date: Dec 2007
ok so a couple of days ago i asked this girl out on a date, nothing has been planned as of yet but we both really like each other and she said yes. i am just worried that she took it as meaning we were officially 'together'. we have known each other through friends for a couple of years and only really started speaking and hanging out this past week. i don't want to rush into anything, because i really like this girl and rushing will only cause disaster.
does anyone have any advice on how to verify we are not officially together without making me sound like a complete douche and getting the wrong message across?
|4th Aug 2012, 06:50 PM||#2|
Overachieving Wanna-be MD
Orientation: Queer, Demi- and Sapiosexual
Out Status: The closet's in ashes
Location: From St. Louis, MO; go to school in Nashville, TN
Join Date: May 2011
Re: advice please!
Someone can correct me if I'm wrong, but going on a date, especially a first date, does not mean you're together, it just means you're going on a date. Now, if she said something that indicated she may indeed think you're together, I'd suggest you say something like "I'd rather take things slow; I like you and I don't want to miss anything by rushing." Now, I have 0 relationship/dating experience, so I may not be right on this, it's just what I'd do.
"We are all a little weird, and life's a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love." - Dr. Seuss
|4th Aug 2012, 07:46 PM||#3|
EC Board Member
Out Status: Out and about
Location: BC, Canada
Join Date: Apr 2008
Re: advice please!
Hi there! TwistyRainbow nailed it on the head. Asking someone on a date, is just that. It's a date - a chance to get to know each other better. When you go on the date with her, and you get the feeling that she is already a few steps ahead of you, and as TwistyRainbow said, you can mention to her that you would like to take things slow, which is perfectly alright.
Meeting up with her is pretty much when you will get the verification for her intentions as well. Maybe for now, try to go into it with "this is just a date" and see what happens. I wouldn't worry too much about it - enjoy the time.
~ Somewhere within us all there is a secret garden. A garden in which we can seek refuge when times are rough or retire to in joy or contemplation ~
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