THE GYM: is he interested?

[Anonymous]

While I am on the treadmill, he passes around my area and turns his head & looks at me. He does that about 5 times during a gym visit.

One day we were both on the mat, we were very close to each other & he went on his back as he stretched his leg, which was somewhat awkward, because his head was pointing toward me.

One day we were walking towards each other and didn’t notice, once our eyes locked, we looked away quickly, and I bumped into a machine because it was just awkward.
We pretty much just eye flirt with each other.
Also we both left the gym at the same time and he kept turning his head back to look at me and he walked kind of slow.


anyways this is the last week of GYM,( it's a college class), Friday is the last day, so maybe he'll go up to me? or should i hold my eye contact and not look away? Also i always have my headphones on. perhaps i should just leave one headphone on?

[prism]

It's hard to approach someone at all, let alone when they have headphones on. Maybe ditch the music altogether. ;P
What kind of gym class? Ask him to spot you on the bench! If not, hold eye contact, smile, give him the signs! If he doesn't approach you by the end of class, you should have a backup plan to introduce yourself.

Good luck!

[Chrissouth53]

So this week, go up to him and casually say "Too bad this class is ending. I really enjoyed it." and see what he says. Maybe add "Do you know anywhere else we could work out going forward?"

[Gravity]

I agree - the number of people who are going to approach you when you've got head/earphones on is going to be very, very few. You can do without them for a week.

My feeling is, if he hasn't approached you yet, he probably won't in the last week. So if you want to talk to him, try saying something to him. Chrissouth53 has a decent idea. You might also mention something about looking for someone to work out with after the class is over.

In any case, try getting to know him a little bit and see what sort of vibe you get.

[Anonymous]

Originally Posted by prism

It's hard to approach someone at all, let alone when they have headphones on. Maybe ditch the music altogether. ;P
What kind of gym class? Ask him to spot you on the bench! If not, hold eye contact, smile, give him the signs! If he doesn't approach you by the end of class, you should have a backup plan to introduce yourself.

Good luck!

I'll ditch the music for sure... it's a regular gym but you have you have a certain amount of hours put in to pass. so it's pretty much like a lab, you do your own thing if you'd like type of class.

there's no bench press. the gym is just a somewhat big room. it's one floor and you can see everyone from any place in the gym... well since i have until Friday, if he doesn't go up to me on thursday, then I'll try and muster up the courage on Friday..

[Anonymous]

Originally Posted by Chrissouth53

So this week, go up to him and casually say "Too bad this class is ending. I really enjoyed it." and see what he says. Maybe add "Do you know anywhere else we could work out going forward?"

what if i go for the Hollywood approach, as in "accidentally" falling then he helps me and we lock eyes.... JUST KIDDING of course haha.

Anyways i am too shy to speak. i rarely talk... i usually wear over-sized shirts, so if i wear something a little bit smaller(not tight or anything) but perfectly sized for my body, perhaps i would appear a bit more enticing... actions/cloth do speak louder than words, right?

[blightedsight]

Originally Posted by Anonymous

what if i go for the Hollywood approach, as in "accidentally" falling then he helps me and we lock eyes.... JUST KIDDING of course haha.

Anyways i am too shy to speak. i rarely talk... i usually wear over-sized shirts, so if i wear something a little bit smaller(not tight or anything) but perfectly sized for my body, perhaps i would appear a bit more enticing... actions/cloth do speak louder than words, right?

If you've attracted this guy's attention, you don't need to change your clothing and if you haven't, then chances are you won't by doing that.
The advice given about striking up a conversation with him really is your best approach.
Look at it this way, if you talk to him and it works out, then fantastic - if you talk to him and it doesn't work out, at least you'll know for future reference you can initiate conversation with someone you like.

[Anonymous]

Originally Posted by Gravity

I agree - the number of people who are going to approach you when you've got head/earphones on is going to be very, very few. You can do without them for a week.

My feeling is, if he hasn't approached you yet, he probably won't in the last week. So if you want to talk to him, try saying something to him. Chrissouth53 has a decent idea. You might also mention something about looking for someone to work out with after the class is over.

In any case, try getting to know him a little bit and see what sort of vibe you get.

lets just say he does go up to me. i know i'd be a nervous wreck & probably blush (i am very light skinned so it'd be very noticeable).. but if i do blush it would be a give away to him right?

i actually though of winking but you know that'll make me look like a pervert... and we only have 1wk of vacation for college...... i'd feel weird asking.. where is a good place to work out/ lets work out together, since school starts a week later.

i am just a nervous wreck... but today i actually had the courage to go up to him/ stared back.. but he left. oh well

[Anonymous]

Originally Posted by blightedsight

If you've attracted this guy's attention, you don't need to change your clothing and if you haven't, then chances are you won't by doing that.
The advice given about striking up a conversation with him really is your best approach.
Look at it this way, if you talk to him and it works out, then fantastic - if you talk to him and it doesn't work out, at least you'll know for future reference you can initiate conversation with someone you like.

it's the approach that's difficult.... like an opener to a conversation.

[blightedsight]

Originally Posted by Anonymous

it's the approach that's difficult.... like an opener to a conversation.

I often find a smile and a "how are you?" works well. You already have something in common, and that is the fact you're in that place at that time.

What happens in a week if you don't talk to this guy?
Will you see him again in any other situation, or is the likelihood that you'll never see him again?
If it's the former you have no rush, if it's the latter, you have nothing to lose.

[Anonymous]

Originally Posted by blightedsight

I often find a smile and a "how are you?" works well. You already have something in common, and that is the fact you're in that place at that time.

What happens in a week if you don't talk to this guy?
Will you see him again in any other situation, or is the likelihood that you'll never see him again?
If it's the former you have no rush, if it's the latter, you have nothing to lose.

I'll have approachable body language

actually this is the 3rd time I've taken the gym class(so i wont gain weight) and 2 out of the 3-times i always had a guy eye me.... but the guys never went up to me... so this 3rd time they'll probably not go up to me.. so i guess it's time i make a move.. i mean he could be my future husband or best-friend.... i guess if i am rejected/punched/embarrassed i would at least not have a what if?

[Anonymous]

but the 3rd times the charm right haha

[prism]

It doesn't have to be gym or workout related!

" What's up? What's your major? " Try to work out near him too. Easier said than done, but blightedsight is right, what do you have to lose? Just go for it!