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Anonymous · 16th Aug 2012, 09:04 AM

Is this a true indicator of someones sexuallity?

It's one of the reasons why I am bi but not gay according to some people(a lesbian in particular). Even though I identified as gay for a while based on my romantic attractions to men. wHICH HAVE BEEN MUCH HARDER TO SHAKE OFF THAN i EXPECTED, pARTICUALRLY ANTHONY, how my heart wept when I was not close to him yes-t at the begining he stroked my hips soo gently!.

I've been with women but it sucked a lot and she swore that I was gay. mainly because I couldn't please her or MYSELF. Maybe I just need more experience with them?

So basically WTF!!!

**Lexington** · 16th Aug 2012, 09:16 AM

If you use a really sharp knife, and make the cuts into the vegetables extra-fine, you should be able to mince them in no time flat.

I'm pretty masculine, I think. Love sports, dress in T-shirts and jeans, low voice, the whole nine yards. And I'm not bi - I'm gay. But that's me. Yeah, somebody who has effeminate characteristics is more likely to be gay. But it isn't a direct indication as to "how gay" somebody is.

Lex

Anonymous · 17th Aug 2012, 02:23 AM

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Originally Posted by Lexington

If you use a really sharp knife, and make the cuts into the vegetables extra-fine, you should be able to mince them in no time flat.

This, fish sticks, and mincing words were the first things that popped into my head when I read this. It really confused me.

sanguine · 17th Aug 2012, 02:59 AM

whats mincing??

fatalmoon91 · 17th Aug 2012, 03:14 AM

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Originally Posted by sanguine

whats mincing??

oh good someone else asked...I'm afraid to google it lol but i'm also so damned curious

Anonymous · 17th Aug 2012, 03:19 AM

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Originally Posted by fatalmoon91

oh good someone else asked...I'm afraid to google it lol but i'm also so damned curious

Urban Dictionary: mincing

LOL i laughed so hard at the 5th meaning and the example

sorry for derailing the thread though

sanguine · 17th Aug 2012, 03:19 AM

geez forgot to untick the box ^^^^^^^^^^ that was me, lets just hope thats not what the OP means by mincing

Robert · 17th Aug 2012, 03:58 AM

First of all, you should know, for your own good, that you are very ignorant about this subject.

Second of all, you dont have to act 'feminine' to be gay.

Third of all, you are gay.

Anonymous · 17th Aug 2012, 04:17 AM

OP here

Just to clarify some points.........

I never actually had the girl I was with say this to my face it was something that I picked up on whilst she was talking to a friend. Which was quite a while ago. Back when I was still in school. I broke up with her a couple days after we had sex.

I have had crushes on girls but they tended to be very masculine sporty girls, always taller than me, and it was more of the idea of them that I

The person I know that is a lesbian is very stereotypical. Dresses lke a boy........... hell I've even checked her out a couple of times she has definitely got that look nailed!

Anonymous · 17th Aug 2012, 04:51 AM

It was more the idea of them that I was interested in. Although I do find women beautiful and do still find myself watching straight porn pretty reguarly. And they do definitely make me excited at times.

About Ant the first thing that I noticed was that he had a nice behind (Imet him through work btw). But everything changed after I sent him a message after his cancer checkup with a load of smileys at the end. Then he started working with me and we grew close. So close that other people began to notice when we would look into each others eyes (some even made comments that we are into each other). Although he definitely is not comfortable with his sexuality at all. This came across in some pretty hurtful ways. Particuarly when someone made a coment on his facebook page about him liking men and he pretty much ignored me and said I should stop stealing his jobs and worked with another person.

There's also how he was saying that I was gay repetadly as if he was trying it on for his self. And this one time where he held his leg against mine in the backseat of the car we were in and it was soo amazing but . He would always sneak up behind me and grab my hips which made me literaly melt inside although I would allways be suprised. I followed him around like a little puppy dog. But he had ideas of family life etc.

Another thing to throw into the mix is that I like to crossdress and have long hair. I've even been told that I would look good in a dress by someone who is into that

which makes me happy XD

My mum is very funny about this kind of thing. I remember when she met my friend who is a lesbian (the one who made the comment about mincing), she walked up to the car and said "c-bear is an awesome person everybody loves him"" and her only retort in a very snobby obviously looking down her nose kind of tone asked if she was a lesbian.

But tbh I would say personally whilst I am more bi I am very homoromantic!

Anonymous · 17th Aug 2012, 04:56 AM

I also remeber this one time in art class whenI told a very "out" and feminine guy that he was a fag!!! In a nasty tone that I regret now.

His reply was that I was gay and didn't know it yet.

Anonymous · 17th Aug 2012, 04:58 AM

My mother has also mentioned about people letting secrets out over facebook. My interested in says men and women atm.

**Lexington** · 17th Aug 2012, 04:59 AM

It's called "gaydar". And "not letting shit get to you". Sounds like he had both.

Lex

Anonymous · 17th Aug 2012, 05:10 AM

I kind of agree lex he was an amazing guy and there were definitely places where I messed stuff up.

although "not letting shit get to you" is something that I could take negatively if you meant it that way.

We are still friends btw and are possibly planning to meet up at the weekend to build a friends pc.

Anonymous · 17th Aug 2012, 09:19 AM

I am the same as Lexington, manly - but gay.
You also get mincy straight men, I know a happily married man who happens to be camp (but Im sure hes not gay). He is so camp that you would expect him to be gay, but the thing is he is comfortable with the way he is and is perfectly straight. Sooooo, this for me is not an indicator of if someone is gay. however that said, a lot of effeminate men are gay so use your gaydar and common sense!
As to your circumstances, I would be repeating myself from other posts but only time will tell for you to figure things out. Have fun!

16th Aug 2012, 09:04 AM	#1
Anonymous Posting Anonymously Posts: 50,850 Join Date: Dec 2007	Mincing Is this a true indicator of someones sexuallity? It's one of the reasons why I am bi but not gay according to some people(a lesbian in particular). Even though I identified as gay for a while based on my romantic attractions to men. wHICH HAVE BEEN MUCH HARDER TO SHAKE OFF THAN i EXPECTED, pARTICUALRLY ANTHONY, how my heart wept when I was not close to him yes-t at the begining he stroked my hips soo gently!. I've been with women but it sucked a lot and she swore that I was gay. mainly because I couldn't please her or MYSELF. Maybe I just need more experience with them? So basically WTF!!!

16th Aug 2012, 09:16 AM	#2
Lexington The gay gargoyle EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Colorado Age: 43 Posts: 13,996 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Mincing If you use a really sharp knife, and make the cuts into the vegetables extra-fine, you should be able to mince them in no time flat. I'm pretty masculine, I think. Love sports, dress in T-shirts and jeans, low voice, the whole nine yards. And I'm not bi - I'm gay. But that's me. Yeah, somebody who has effeminate characteristics is more likely to be gay. But it isn't a direct indication as to "how gay" somebody is. Lex

17th Aug 2012, 02:59 AM	#4
sanguine a cow Full Member Gender: cow Orientation: cows Out Status: i dont care Location: Sydney Australia Age: 19 Posts: 702 Join Date: Sep 2011	Re: Mincing whats mincing?? __________________ The most pathetic person in the world is someone who has sight but has no vision. Value yourself. The only people who appreciate a doormat are people with dirty shoes

17th Aug 2012, 03:19 AM	#7
sanguine a cow Full Member Gender: cow Orientation: cows Out Status: i dont care Location: Sydney Australia Age: 19 Posts: 702 Join Date: Sep 2011	Re: Mincing geez forgot to untick the box ^^^^^^^^^^ that was me, lets just hope thats not what the OP means by mincing __________________ The most pathetic person in the world is someone who has sight but has no vision. Value yourself. The only people who appreciate a doormat are people with dirty shoes

17th Aug 2012, 03:58 AM	#8
Robert Love Revolution Full Member Gender: Male ♂ Orientation: Gay Out Status: Most people Location: Look behind you. Age: 22 Posts: 1,095 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: Mincing First of all, you should know, for your own good, that you are very ignorant about this subject. Second of all, you dont have to act 'feminine' to be gay. Third of all, you are gay. __________________ "I am like a mirror that dares not be what nature made it, but feels obligated, always, to reflect what surrounds it." - Frederick II of Prussia. "England is a Prison" - Gerrard Winstanley

17th Aug 2012, 04:17 AM	#9
Anonymous Posting Anonymously Posts: 50,850 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Mincing OP here Just to clarify some points......... I never actually had the girl I was with say this to my face it was something that I picked up on whilst she was talking to a friend. Which was quite a while ago. Back when I was still in school. I broke up with her a couple days after we had sex. I have had crushes on girls but they tended to be very masculine sporty girls, always taller than me, and it was more of the idea of them that I The person I know that is a lesbian is very stereotypical. Dresses lke a boy........... hell I've even checked her out a couple of times she has definitely got that look nailed!

17th Aug 2012, 04:51 AM	#10
Anonymous Posting Anonymously Posts: 50,850 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Mincing It was more the idea of them that I was interested in. Although I do find women beautiful and do still find myself watching straight porn pretty reguarly. And they do definitely make me excited at times. About Ant the first thing that I noticed was that he had a nice behind (Imet him through work btw). But everything changed after I sent him a message after his cancer checkup with a load of smileys at the end. Then he started working with me and we grew close. So close that other people began to notice when we would look into each others eyes (some even made comments that we are into each other). Although he definitely is not comfortable with his sexuality at all. This came across in some pretty hurtful ways. Particuarly when someone made a coment on his facebook page about him liking men and he pretty much ignored me and said I should stop stealing his jobs and worked with another person. There's also how he was saying that I was gay repetadly as if he was trying it on for his self. And this one time where he held his leg against mine in the backseat of the car we were in and it was soo amazing but . He would always sneak up behind me and grab my hips which made me literaly melt inside although I would allways be suprised. I followed him around like a little puppy dog. But he had ideas of family life etc. Another thing to throw into the mix is that I like to crossdress and have long hair. I've even been told that I would look good in a dress by someone who is into that which makes me happy XD My mum is very funny about this kind of thing. I remember when she met my friend who is a lesbian (the one who made the comment about mincing), she walked up to the car and said "c-bear is an awesome person everybody loves him"" and her only retort in a very snobby obviously looking down her nose kind of tone asked if she was a lesbian. But tbh I would say personally whilst I am more bi I am very homoromantic!

17th Aug 2012, 04:56 AM	#11
Anonymous Posting Anonymously Posts: 50,850 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Mincing I also remeber this one time in art class whenI told a very "out" and feminine guy that he was a fag!!! In a nasty tone that I regret now. His reply was that I was gay and didn't know it yet.

17th Aug 2012, 04:58 AM	#12
Anonymous Posting Anonymously Posts: 50,850 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Mincing My mother has also mentioned about people letting secrets out over facebook. My interested in says men and women atm.

17th Aug 2012, 04:59 AM	#13
Lexington The gay gargoyle EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Colorado Age: 43 Posts: 13,996 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Mincing It's called "gaydar". And "not letting shit get to you". Sounds like he had both. Lex

17th Aug 2012, 05:10 AM	#14
Anonymous Posting Anonymously Posts: 50,850 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Mincing I kind of agree lex he was an amazing guy and there were definitely places where I messed stuff up. although "not letting shit get to you" is something that I could take negatively if you meant it that way. We are still friends btw and are possibly planning to meet up at the weekend to build a friends pc.

17th Aug 2012, 09:19 AM	#15
Anonymous Posting Anonymously Posts: 50,850 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Mincing I am the same as Lexington, manly - but gay. You also get mincy straight men, I know a happily married man who happens to be camp (but Im sure hes not gay). He is so camp that you would expect him to be gay, but the thing is he is comfortable with the way he is and is perfectly straight. Sooooo, this for me is not an indicator of if someone is gay. however that said, a lot of effeminate men are gay so use your gaydar and common sense! As to your circumstances, I would be repeating myself from other posts but only time will tell for you to figure things out. Have fun!