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[Anonymous]

Hi. I am a lesbian and I'm worried about having sex with my girlfriend for the first time. (It will be my first time EVER!) But like, how can two girls have sex? I only ever learned how the male and female genitalia fit together, they don't teach you lesbian sex in high school health class. Also, how does scissoring work? Whenever guys talk about lesbians at my school, they always talk about scissoring. I appreciate it.

[Dolphinkid]

We'll I wouldn't know, sas I'm not a lesbian(I'm a guy) nor have I had sex, but I do believ there is a section on it in the health section of EC

[Anonymous]

Thanks. That was helpful. But, if you find somebody who knows how scissoring works, send them here! I'm nervous. LOL

[Anonymous]

Don't get too caught up on scissoring, it probably doesn't happen as much as the media etc portrays - rather its been popularized as a defining part of lesbian sex - when personally I'd say it isn't.

Honestly, it isnt that easy... and can end up in a few giggles. Lets just say it takes some practice - and flexibility hahaha. I wouldn't really think it would come up that much in first time experiences just because it is something that is a bit awkward to do with inexperienced partners.

[Fugs]

OOOOOKay lol. I can't for the life of me remember what the rules are about this so I won't show pictures, and won't go into graphic detail.

There's a lot more about sex than genitals. Kissing, touching, fingers, toys, anything can be used. Experiment, ask what she wants and tell her what you like. Do something and suddenly her body reacts? Do that again lol.

Scissoring is basically when you lock your crotches together, it's really just dry humping. Situate you're legs together so you can both well, put the pieces together lol.

You can also accomplish the same thing by having one person lay on their back back, wrapping their legs around the other's back, and having them be pulled up into the sitting position on their lap. Same thing, but more comfortable and lets you have eye contact and do other stuff ^,^

Remember to be safe, consensual, and have fun ^,^

[KaraBulut]

Originally Posted by Anonymous

Hi. I am a lesbian and I'm worried about having sex with my girlfriend for the first time. (It will be my first time EVER!) But like, how can two girls have sex? I only ever learned how the male and female genitalia fit together, they don't teach you lesbian sex in high school health class. Also, how does scissoring work? Whenever guys talk about lesbians at my school, they always talk about scissoring. I appreciate it.

Scissoring is a lot like anal sex is for gay guys- something that gets a lot of attention but is not the centerpiece of good sex.

Good sex starts with a good long look at each other and ends with falling asleep in each other's arms- with a lot of communication in between.

There's always fumbling and uncertainty the first few times that you're with someone new- no matter how much experience you have. If you want to make it a good experience for both of you, don't focus on any particular act and instead talk about what it will take for both of you to feel comfortable and enjoy the experience. If everything goes well, you'll have other times to try scissoring, a trapeze and any other exotic act you want to try. You don't have to do everything in one night.

[Ianthe]

Originally Posted by Anonymous

Hi. I am a lesbian and I'm worried about having sex with my girlfriend for the first time. (It will be my first time EVER!) But like, how can two girls have sex? I only ever learned how the male and female genitalia fit together, they don't teach you lesbian sex in high school health class. Also, how does scissoring work? Whenever guys talk about lesbians at my school, they always talk about scissoring. I appreciate it.

You'd probably be wiser to ignore what (presumably straight, high school or college age) guys say about lesbian sex--all of which they are mostly getting from porn and South Park--and see if you can find out what lesbians have to say about it. A lot of lesbians think scissoring is pretty awkward, and not the easiest way for either partner to reach orgasm.

High school health class is also not an especially good source of information regarding people's actual sexual practices--they usually only cover the one thing, and even straight people do a lot of other stuff, too.

For lesbians, there is not one act that is considered the "real" sex act, the way vaginal penetration is for straight sex. The idea is just to make each other feel good. A lot of things that straight people think of as not "really" being sex, lesbians think of as definitely being sex, such as oral sex or manual (using your hands). Something that can help is to talk about (or show each other) how you masturbate, and try to do things to each other that will feel similar.

Make sure to tell each other before you start if there is any part of your body you don't want the other person to touch, and then just touch each other how you want to, or how the other person asks you to. There aren't any rules, really, except for requiring consent, and there isn't anything specific that you are expected to do.

[Aria]

I have never scissored in my life, so I can tell you now, it's not something every couple practices. Most of what intercourse entails is entirely up to the tastes of the two participants. And since it is your first time, it's a good time to experiment with a lot of stuff. Toys, oral, touching, that sort of stuff.

I wouldn't just straight to the genitals though. Build up to it- foreplay and such. They always say the first is the worst, so don't stress. Just do what feels right in the moment and don't worry about doing it 'right'.

[Anonymous]

I think scissoring is the most ridiculous and hilarious thing ever. I don't know any gay girls who do it much and I only tried it once with my ex, we ended up laughing about it because it did nothing for either of us. It is total natural to be nervous about having sex with a woman for the first time. But don't be, Just do what comes natural to you. I think the best advice I can give you is , do what you do when you masturbate, to her. You are a girl after all the plumbing is the same. One of the great things about being in a same sex relationship you get to be so much more creative with how you have sex. YOU can do whatever you want without feeling you have to do the same boring routine like straight couples might think. So talk with your girlfriend before you make love and ask her what she likes. I know it might seem awkward but believe me communication is very important and vital to having a good experience. Other than that just go with the flow.