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Old 19th Sep 2012, 09:26 PM   #1
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sometimes when i watch porn (straight porn, even tho im a lesbian) i wish i had a dick.. is this weird? i dont wanna get a sex change or anything but sometimes i wish that i had been born a boy.. i dont know what this means. am i trans in any way? id love to hear anyones opinion or advice. thank u
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Old 19th Sep 2012, 09:34 PM   #2
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sometimes when i watch porn (straight porn, even tho im a lesbian) i wish i had a dick.. is this weird? i dont wanna get a sex change or anything but sometimes i wish that i had been born a boy.. i dont know what this means. am i trans in any way? id love to hear anyones opinion or advice. thank u
Speaking as a guy I can tell you that while peeing your name in the snow is fun, having a zipper malfunction in much worse. On a serious note I think if you are trans than there would be more signs than just that, sorry I can give you better advice
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Old 19th Sep 2012, 10:14 PM   #3
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Hi there! It might be a bit too early to go down the route of questioning whether you are transgender or not. While you feel sometimes the desire to be a boy, you have also mentioned something important and that is, that you don't want to get a sex change. Usually, the feelings of wanting to be the opposite gender go much deeper than that.

I would suggest that you give it some time. If the feelings of wanting to become a boy, and you can start seeing yourself as being and living like a boy become stronger, than there is something you might want to explore and understand.
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Old 19th Sep 2012, 11:31 PM   #4
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sometimes when i watch porn (straight porn, even tho im a lesbian) i wish i had a dick.. is this weird? i dont wanna get a sex change or anything but sometimes i wish that i had been born a boy.. i dont know what this means. am i trans in any way? id love to hear anyones opinion or advice. thank u
I think it's understandable that you have some thoughts about having a penis, as it would make it easier for you to satisfy your girl partner. To be honest, I sometimes think it would be easier if I were a girl, because in that case my attraction to guys would be accepted by society. This, in my case though, doesn't mean I am trans; I could never make the decision to change sex and I really wouldn't want it anyway, it was just a quick thought. I think this might be the case for you as well? I really don't think this means that you're trans
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Can I trade you? :/

Anyways, no - it's not weird, particularly for a sexual fantasy. I wouldn't necessarily equate it to gender dsyphoria indicative of a transgendered person, though. Any trans person feel free to correct me if I'm wrong, but that feeling would generally extend to all areas of your life, not just in a sexual sense.


Like Mirko said, give it time. Perhaps there's something to it, but don't feel the need to jump to any conclusions.
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Old 20th Sep 2012, 12:36 AM   #6
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well this isnt the first time ive thought about this. I mean i get jealous of guys sometimes cause I want to be a boy too. I love the way they get to dress and act and basically everything that comes with being a guy. so if im not trans then what is the definition of a trans? someone who wants a sex change?
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well this isnt the first time ive thought about this. I mean i get jealous of guys sometimes cause I want to be a boy too. I love the way they get to dress and act and basically everything that comes with being a guy. so if im not trans then what is the definition of a trans? someone who wants a sex change?
I know how you feel. I'm sort of the same way. I already dress like a guy, but I wish I could actually wear guy's clothes. Actually, I do wear guy's v-neck tees...I mean, real guy clothes. I see guys who are in outfits that I like and wish I could wear it too and think that I'd probably look good in it as well haha. And I always wish I had a penis. First of all, peeing would be sooo much easier! Second of all, I think sex would be "easier" per se than lesbian sex and it'd just be fun to use one. I'm a germaphobe, so oral sex is completely off-putting to me...as are hand jobs. If I had a penis, I could just use that and it wouldn't require any oral contact or otherwise. But despite all this, I wouldn't actually go through a sex change. I think it's normal for some lesbians to feel this way without even being close to being or becoming trans.

There's actually a thing called "penis envy." I know a lot of lesbians who have it
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you know whats weird. i can totally relate to this. and for the longest time i thought i was trans, but then figured it out, im just gender fluid or gender queer. i like certain parts of my body as a woman, but havung a strapon and playing intimatly with my female partner, thats hot for me.

im not sure what it is exactly, other than the role exchange where i get to be more agressive and dominant, and my female Dominant partner gets to relax, but i think it has to do with the head space i am in and how things are going. some days i want to be agressive and Dominant, other days, i want to be held like a little girl and touched gently.

i guess its all in how i feel.
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sometimes when i watch porn (straight porn, even tho im a lesbian) i wish i had a dick.. is this weird? i dont wanna get a sex change or anything but sometimes i wish that i had been born a boy.. i dont know what this means. am i trans in any way? id love to hear anyones opinion or advice. thank u
Sometimes I wish I had a vagina. My wildest fantasy which doesn't have any possibility of happening is being able to swap bodies with a female lover so she's in my body and I'm in hers for just a few romps
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well this isnt the first time ive thought about this. I mean i get jealous of guys sometimes cause I want to be a boy too. I love the way they get to dress and act and basically everything that comes with being a guy. so if im not trans then what is the definition of a trans? someone who wants a sex change?
Hi there! Basically you are looking at a transgender 'issue' because you are describing feelings and wants that are for the opposite gender. When you say that "you want to be a boy too" you are indicating the opposite gender from that you were assigned at birth.

The way you have described your feelings, I would suggest that you might want to talk to someone about the feelings and associated thoughts that you have experienced thus far. If you think a lot about being a guy, and feel drawn to "everything that comes with being a guy" you might want to think about it, and also try to understand it better.

Is there a LGBT centre or support group in your school or community that could give you some suggestions on local resources?
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From a psychological standpoint you are feeling Penis Envy.

Sigmond Freud speculated that girls, during their psychological development reached a point where they develop an envy for the penis. And that it is a defining moment in the development of a girl growing into a women. Of course a lot of Freuds theories have been debunked or rethought and it is to this day a highly debatable subject in the areas of sexual psychology.

I finally get to use something I learned in psychology class!
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I get this a little, like when I have to shop for dresses etc or find something to wear for a formal occassion I wish I was a guy then all I would have to do is choose a shirt and tie to go with my suit rather than a dress and a different outfit for every event.
Or when I wash my hair in winter and it takes ages to dry even with the hairdryer, I mean I know I could cut my hair short even though im female but I just dont think it would suit me.

So I guess the way I would catergorise what I feel is that its kind of a convinence thing that I wish I was a guy rather than I think I am a guy in a girls body or I want to be a guy.
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i had the same thing except as a gay guy for awhile i was obsessed with the idea of being a girl, but i think it was because i was having a lot of trouble accepting myself as gay..
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Well, I'm a lesbian and I think it'd be a lot of fun to have a penis. Only thing I can think is... I'm also way femme outwardly. I wear tight skirts. Tucking would get to be a pain in the neck (or rather, a pain in the dick).

There are wonderful detachable models out there but... one that could actually *feel*? Fully sensate? That'd be awesome.

Come to think of it though, I'd never leave the house if I had a penis.
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I'm the above poster and now I'm imagining wearing stiletto heels and having a huge dick.

Bad brain... this will be entertaining
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You could be gender fluid.

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